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1) Breath - When you feel that intense emotion coming on, immediately think to remain calm. Take deep breaths.

2) Pass - Tell yourself the moment will pass, and that there is no reason to become angry.

3) Consequences - Think about the consequences of your actions. What will you have to live with after you let yourself become angry.

Do these three mantras when you get angry, for about a month you will have easily done away with your temper.

Think about it. Stop yourself. Catch yourself. Always be aware of what you're doing. Realize that anger is futile. It doesn't get anything done but rather harms your relationships, as you have apparently found in the past. So stop it. When you start feeling angry, realize it, and quickly stop yourself. Just say "Stop. Breathe. Relax. It's okay. Choose not to get angry. Just relax. It's okay. It's not that big of a deal. It's unfair, but that's alright. I'm going to be the bigger person here." Give yourself a motivational speech of that sort. The fact is that in most situations, anger is useless. Especially about the small things. So just calm yourself when you feel the anger pulsing, realize that you don't have a reason to be angry (as it sounds is usually the case) and just relax. Accept that it happens and that you need to fix this problem by talking, not yelling. Even if the other person yells, keep your temper down, control yourself, and don't let them get to you. Be stronger than them and don't give them the pleasure of seeing you angry. Combine all this, and you may be okay(if you do it right =] ).

I dont usually have a temper....I very, very rarely have a temper but when I do I just have to get away from everyone. Take a breath and go somewhere, anywhere. So I will usually go to my room and just blast some music, or go for a run.

Instead of thinking how angry you are. Try watching what your tantrums are doing to the people around you at the time. When i start to flip just seeing the concern in my friends/family members eyes is enough to take my rage down a couple notches.

When I was younger I used to go to my room and beat my pillow until I felt better, now that I'm an adult I write in a journal every day.

Distract yourself if you can. Also if you're about to blow up on someone, try to get away. They may very well deserve some anger, but actually losing it won't do anything but hurt the situation.

Count 1 to 10. Sloooowly. Trust me, it works for me.

I have a thing for banging my head on the wall behind me.

Yeah, there's a huge hole there now.