Alright, so there's this girl i used to like (went on a couple of dates with her), and in short form she hurt me a lot and apparently she talked behind my back a lot and said several mean things. However none were ever said in front of my face. So after one incident i deleted her of facebook, but a couple of days ago i met her coincidentally at a shop- we exchanged some words and moved on elsewhere. So once i came home, i sent her a message on facebook saying that "You may be confused that i am re-adding you but it's because the person who told me you said **** about me behind my back came to me and apologized about it being untrue- so yea it's cool". However she saw that message a couple of days ago (you know how facebook shows you if you saw a message or not) and she ignored the friend request nor did she reply. I now feel a bit stupid and i feel as if i lost some of my pride in the process, what would be a good reply i could send her to save my image of being pathetic of sending her a message. I was thinking more around the lines of telling here this :

'Well facebook notified me that you saw the message a couple of days ago, and you ceased to even bother to reply. Well anyhow, i just wanted to let you know that although one incident of stuff you said behind my back was untrue, please know that i know a lot of the things you DID in fact say behind my back -[some quotes she said](He's annoying, he's not that good looking, i told him we could be something in the future even though i know it will never happen etc.)- now please put yourself in my shoes. If you were me and a couple of trust worthy sources told you that, you too would treat me differently. I don't care about the past, i don't like having conflicts- this was purely a form of reconciliation. I would not say this makes me a soft or weak person- on the contrary it shows pure character. I don't mind if you decided to reply or not- but in the past i have promised myself that i would let you know about this".

I'm not 100% sure with this message above but i would greatly appreciate what any of you have to say about this.

Note: I do have small bits of feelings for her but non i would act on (the past is the past, good to move onto something better). Also, of course the message will be better grammatically structured. I wrote this up in haste.