I'm 16...and I have really terribly low self esteem.
I act cocky and confident all the time and I'm reasonably confident with who I am. I don't want to change to conform to anyone - I'm very stubborn. As a result, everyone thinks that I have high self esteem and 'attitude'.
In reality...I hate pretty much everything about myself except my beliefs. Problem is I talk the talk but I've never actually done anything to act on my beliefs.
So basically...yeah. I hate myself. I'm not good at what I like. I'm not really good at anything. I mean...I'm not dumb, but in comparison to my friends I am. I feel lonely...though i have friends. They are great but it puzzles me how they want to be my friend when i don't seem to have any good qualities. I'm nice enough I suppose but i'm obnoxious and selfish really. I'm also very lonely. Never had a boyfriend or anything.
I have no dreams anymore. No ambitions. I'm lazy and I seem incapable of doing anything. It's been worse since this person at my school died. I didn't know her but she had such amazing ambitions that she will now never fulfil. And yet I'm here with nothing. I'm so worthless.I feel selfish because some people have real problems - I'm so lucky and yet I don't seem to be happy.
Reading through it it sounds unbelievably whiny (another one of my faults) but it's true...this is how I feel about myself.
Does anyone have some advice to pick up my self-esteem? I'm about to head into my last year of high school and I am so unbelievably scared. It's freaking me out and making me feel even worse about myself.
Thank you
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Thanks for your honesty. Everything thing you wrote about *********, laziness, worry and selfishness says to me "scared".
I would suggest having a conversation with someone about the aspects you are frightened about. Tackling that conversation head on and not running from your fears of rejection, inadequacy, and achievement will help you to stand tall in your own life and be real about who you are right now and in every moment.
Good luck dear. I am available to listen if you want to talk.
The only difference between the ambitious people and you is that they force themselves to make accomplishments. Don't you think everyone wants to stay in bed when the alarm goes off? Ambitious people get out of bed when the alarm goes off even when they don't want to. I'm not trying at all to put you down, but just saying if you want to have a car, a house, a girlfriend and whatever you want, you have to get off the couch in order to get it. You can dream a dream but if you just think about it without taking action etc....
You may be depressed also. Because you should be able to meet the demands of life. If you feel you can't, get some help. Exercise also boosts energy too. But you have to get up and start. I' m sorry you feel this way.
Also, your friends probably respect you for your mind. What you think and say. You don't have to be super accomplished to have people like you.
You know what? We all go through it. Just smile and think about the things you love. try changing your appearance... Change can effect personality. Do yoga every morning to just relax and stay healthy and calm. If that doesn't work... Fake it til you make it:)
https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1C1AFAB_enUS466U...
Follow that link. Your self esteem should immediately rise unless you are one of them. Then I was say **** it and just eat a hundred more dollars worth of McDoubles and Big Macs.
do smth worthy
and always believe in yourself