I am currently attending the university of waterloo and doing honours math over here. At first i was thinking this school offers co-op, soo hooray i will be making money. But after this first term over here, i realize i just hate my program, i am miserable in math over here and cause of that i am just hating waterloo so much. I am beginning to hate everything about it. I am on the verge of failing now and keep thinking everyday, why did i come here, why could i have not pursued something else more useful in life like commerce. ARGH i hate this program, i hate this school, i hate the way that this school has potentially ruined my life at 18. I know i am to blame and this all could be avoided, but all i can feel is anger when thinking this university, sure its a great school but after this first term, and the fear of possibly failing for the first time has got afraid. So please do tell me, could i transfer out this university after first year, to another one! i am willing to start over again and accept the fact that i possibly wasted a crucial year of my life. Please give me a good answer because i honestly do feel like its the end of world. Everyday i wake up i just get depressed thinking i am still in waterloo. At one point i was strongly wishing i was dead.......I can't disappoint my parents like this and other days i think i could just go back to that final year in high school and just choose another university i was accepted to. Please help me, cause i am just getting too depressed now.
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You are not looking at this situation realistically. This university is not ruining your life, the univerisity is just an institution of education. You may be failing and you may not like it there but your life is not being ruined. You can easily stop at any point. Withdraw before the grades post to you if you are sure they are F's. You can transfer to another school (why even finish the year if you are that miserable) but if you wait until you have F's posting to your record then the grade point average will follow you. You are 18 and while you think this is some big crucial year in your life, it isn't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of everything. Stop making this into a life or death situation. Will your parents be disapppointed? Yes for a while but they will get over it. Just be honest with them about how you have tried your best and you just can not go on like this. Explain to them how it has effected you emotionally and what you want to now do about it. Choose another school, truely think about whtat you want to major in and get the ball rolling for a clean start. It really is that easy. Stop thinking it is the end of the world...you are 18 not 48. The only people who can say they have never made a mistake is the person has never tried anything. Just learn from your mistakes and try your best not to repeat them. Look in the mirror and say, " This is not the end of the world. This is not the end of my world. This can be handled and I can move on without carrying it with me." 99% of the emotional pain you are having right now is probably coming from the fact that you feel you can not tell your parents, the truth will set you free. You know what else, if your parents do happen to be jerks about it ( I doubt they will) so what! At least it will be over and you can move on with your life. There are terminally ill people in the world, people with terminally ill children and so many horrible things that can not be fixed, those are end of the world traumas yours really is fixable. If you were my child and you told me this I'd say everything I just told you and I'd say "Let's fix it." and you would feel a weight lift off you, so give them a chance.
everyone makes wrong choices at some point in their life so don't beat yourself up for it. first of all, try to recall what made you choose this school and this specific course in the first place. assess what has changed (other than the obvious part of you not being very good in math--possibly). maybe you'll get that original drive back. if not, that's ok. it's not the end of the world yet and there's still time to change school and majors. the important thing is that you need to make another important decision. either heroically attempt to finish what you've already committed yourself to or accept defeat in this battle and begin anew. because that's what being an adult is: accepting that life won't always go the way you want it to but there's always a second chance to make it right. it's only been a year, right? it could have been worse. other people don't even get the opportunity to go to school. so think positive and get your butt out of that misery chair! and don't forget to pray for divine guidance (if you're religious, sorry for mentioning if you're not). i hope this helps. best of luck.
You are only 18-it is only one year of your life.
It is not that critical.
What you do need to do is empower yourself by looking at the options of other schools that you can attend when this year is done.
There is nothing to be gained by blaming yourself for a bad decision. It is part of growing up. Use it as a learning tool.
Use any extra time you have doing research on how to get your butt moved to someplace that suits you better.
Now you know what you DON"T want!
When you can see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel-it will be easier to make it through one day at a time.
this wasn't a mistake. this became a determination you made on your individual motives. Calling it something else doesn' t replace it. you're untrue. Now you're making excuses so which you do not would desire to deal the consequence out of your determination. considering the fact that he hasn't had the solid experience to drop you, you will desire to comprehend that your determination is a sturdy indicator that important replace has got here approximately on your dating. How long it quite is been cutting-edge technique this variation is a query. does not unquestionably count. The replace is genuine and you'd be able to desire to stand it.
Hello,
First off I'm sorry to hear you're having this problem. The first thing you need to do is speak with your tutor, explain everything you have written here. They will be able to help, wether that will mean being transfered I don't know. But you will get some help!
Stay strong, and good luck.
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