hi... let meletyou readmy previous question first ...
" theres a girl that has just moved into my ( 4th year) classes and i have "liked" her since 1st year i have not had an oppurtunity to tell her i "like" her partially because she is always talking to her friends and i don't want to embarrass me or her and also because i don't feel its right to walk up to a girl and just ask her out? ...
Now shes in my classes every time i try to start a conversation she either just ignores me and goes and talks to her friends - as if not to talk to me- or just looks at me like im a retard ... which i assure you i not ( well most probably a little if i cant bloody ask a girl ive liked for 4 years out ! )
i have only ever told 1 person that i "like" her and they wouldn't have told anybody so she is totally oblivious to the fact i like her
just any general advice would be appreciated like how to get her to at least like me then perhaps go out somewhere on a date ...
And yes im verry shy - But so is she
( were both 14)
ok now you have read that and have some background information i want to add something more -
in the last week or two i have spoken to her ( short convos ) about3 times - but i think they key thing is eye contact ( tell me if this is a good idea) every time she looks at me i some times look right back and sometimes look away as soon as our eyes meet - ( is this good or bad ? ) and also i have a firend whos sisters friend is the person i likes friend so in a strange twisted way i ended up walking homewith her and we got into a real conversation - but i messed loads of things up - but i tried to hint that were into thesame things and stuff .
In science today whenevr something funny happend ( great teacher for science ( different story) i would look at her because i know that i sit in herline of site to the teacher ( its not a "stalker look" its more of a - casual- glance) but it got to the point where she seemed to expect me to be looking up until she was actually leaning forward to look at me - glancing at her - we can only keep our eyes locked for a milisecond but alot can happen in a human body in that short time - i think she is slighlty wawreofmy increased intrest in her over the next 2 weeks but she is still totally oblivious to how much i like her how can i let her no but withouther freaking out and me ruining my chances
( wheni said she looks at me like im weird, or something ) i didntmean it as if she looked at me in a hateful way just a curious "wtf " look ---- its so hard when she doesnthave myspace or msn and i cant just ask for a phonenumber and call her up now can i
( again seriously , please any general advice would be greatfully recived )
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DO NOT go right out and tell her you like her. If she doesnt like you she will probably be freaked out. So, you should start by talking to her outside class. Get her screen name or something. IM her asking for the hw then start a conversation. If she doesnt have IM then ask her for help or offer her help. Then flirt with her dont become her friend FLIRT! Tease her but be nice and compliment her. Then once you are on speaking levels u can ask her for her number. Then start calling her. THEN ASK HER OUT AND BE HAPPY =DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD
goodness thats a lot of writing. but its fine. So lets get down to business. You need to talk to her more, I think you might be doing this, but talk to her about school. "like isnt mr, blah blah funny?" or something. Dont talk about general interests. And when you she looks at you. give a small smile or maybe roll your eyes about a teacher or something. Make it casual. And flirt a lot, =]. Just get to be her friend first and then ask her out. If you want her number just say "can i get your number? i am always forgetting what the hw is" or something like that. casual is the key. And if she is always talking to her friends go up and talk with them. Join the convo. But beware, dont be desperate. =]. I hope i helped.
First of all, please, please use spell check and proof what you're writing, more people will read your question if it's clearer to read (sorry, it's total pet peeve of mine).
I think that you just need to spit it out and tell her how you feel. Obviously, you have been interested in this girl for an extended period of time and her body language is telling to speak up and say how you feel. You might offer to take her out for a coffee (or whatever you guys drink) and talk to her one on one. C'mon, you've waited this long, I don't think that you'll have anything to lose unless you talk to her! Dude, go for it!