I caught my boyfriend sexting with women he has never met. Should I take him back?
My bf and I (now my ex) have been dating for about 9 months. We been through thick in thin in such little time. I believe he is my soulmate. He has never done anything bad or wrong to hurt me. He is a really great guy. But one night I had this gut feeling to go threw his phone and I caught him sexting with women. He's told me he has never met them before and this has only been going on for a month. I believe him. He tells me he is sorry and if he could he would change what he did. He said he wanted to ask my hand in marriage within the next year and now it's too late... Of course I'm going to show him it was wrong but in time should I take him back? And if so in how long? I miss him to the extreme and I love him. Advice please!
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Hmm well I don't think you should take him back so quickly as he might do it again but rather you should make him earn his respect back, if he wants you back then he needs to prove it and that means no more texting or sexting random women who he doesn't know I'd give it at-least 2-3 months to see if he really has changed if he has then you can take him back but if he keeps doing the same things over and over again then let this relationship go.
If he's doing this purely after 9 months then it quite is a great pink flag that he will do it back. you will certainly no longer understand for specific if he cheated on you together with her. opportunities are high that one time you checked his telephone, he have been given careless and forgot to delete. i'm married now yet i substitute into in an analogous situation with a prior bf and that i took him back. Dumbest element I ever did because of the fact the texting women and cheating by no skill stopped. He purely tried to be sneakier. So do your self a want and circulate on because of the fact in case you're taking him back he will think of he can break out with it if it candy talks you or apologizes. Then it is going to take you a collectively as to have confidence any guy after him.
He seems like an okay guy he just made a mistake. If he never met those people it's sorta like watching porn in a sense. So if I were you I wouldn't have broken up with him in the first place. Just talk to him and ask him to promise not to do it anymore and he probably won't. Just as long as he hasn't met them before.
I definitely think you should wait a while before you decide on anything. Make him prove to you that it honestly meant nothing to him and he won't do it again. How long? I think a few months at least. If he doesn't show by then how sorry/how the sexting meant nothing and he won't do it again then let him go.
Jeez that's a tough one. I advise that you don't think about marriage at all. Date him but monitor what he's up to. Think about why you two broke up in the first place, and ask yourself if he's really the one for you.