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I remember when I was 14 (I'm 32 now) and I felt depressed at the age of around 14/15, I think looking back on it now I was very depressed although I didn't quite realise it at the time. I think part of it was (for me anyway) that when you reach that age it's the first time you are looking at the world through the eyes of an adult and you start to realise that you are about to have responsibility in the world. You are going to have to leave school and enter the big bad world, and part of it is fear of the unknown (including your fears about death).

The problem is that at your age your brain and body is developing at such a tremendous rate that it's hard to keep a stable and healthy outlook on life. Just as you think you have figured out how to act, dress, balance your school work with social life, make your friends laugh, make your teachers respect you, understand your own feelings, then everything changes - you are in a different year at school, work load changes, friends change and it all seems too difficult. Even when you think you have it all figured out you have to leave school and start looking for a job. But trust me things get much much better as you get older. And why is that? Because with the added responsibility comes the added benefit that you get to shape your own future and create a life for yourself rather than having everyone else make your decisions. If you don't want to leave school then don't, you can go to college, then university (that's what I did in a roundabout sort of way). Then you can go and do a job that you really enjoy and your future will be a happy one.

About the worries about death and loss of relatives. Why do you feel that way? Are you afraid of growing old and dying? I don't mean to panic you but you are right to be scared, it's a part of life that most people brush under the carpet and the fact that you are considering what will happen to you and your relatives is a good thing, but you should definitely not be getting depressed about it. There is a big difference between being worried about something and getting depressed. Worry is a perfectly normal emotion and to a certain extent so is sadness when it is appropriate to the situation. Worrying about the future will give you the drive and determination to do well in life. But if you worry about things and then don't actually do anything about it, that is where depression kicks in in my opinion. Being proactive and thinking in a positive way is the single best defence against feelings of depression. You might think that sounds like mumbo jumbo but I am 100% confident that it works for everyone. So the plan is this, think of the thing that is making you depressed (for example not wanting to leave the learning environment) and you have two options. Option A) Let the problem floor you, lie down and be trampled on by your unhappy feelings - you will probably end up telling yourself that you can't see a way out and therefore will never try to escape your situation. Option B) Do something about it RIGHT NOW, fight for your own happiness and make your own life better. You could start by looking at courses online and the entry requirements. Think about things you want to be and don't hold back - don't let other people tell you that you can't do X or you don't get paid enough doing Y. Once you are older and you have set yourself up in a career you can start living a full and productive life, you will stop thinking about the end of your life and the end of others lives and start enjoying the life you have made for yourself. You will feel proud that you made your life better and others will be proud of you.

Anyway I hope I have not bored you to death with my ranting :) If you want to talk about anything let me know. It sounds like you are unsure about what you want to do with your life in the future. Having done many many different jobs, I have a lot of experience and might just be able to help you.

Life is too short to worry and you have a few years left before you will be leaving high school so wait and worry about it then. Depression at your age is more like you are in a rut so wait until you have something to be depressed about rather than things that might never happen. Long time ago after I divorced my house was repossessed and I was made homeless with my teenage daughter and her baby and then I had terrible depression but what kept me going was knowing there was people living out there who were worse than i was and I felt I was at the lowest point of my life but i survived and got on with my life. You are young and have your life in front of you so get studying for next years exams and get good grades etc and a good career, Good Luck

What is your question? Have you tried to see a therapist? When I was fourteen, I felt the same way, but things DO get better. You're young. You have a lot more to live for. I promise you WILL get out of this slump and you will enjoy life.

To all the people saying that he should turn to God,

He will turn to god if HE wants to. I'm pretty sure things like that isn't exactly what he wants to hear right now. He wants help, not to be told that god is the answer.

I'm going to recommend that you find something that you like to do or tell someone of how you feel. You should tell someone, leaving High School is something that we need to do.

Get up do things with friends and neighbors. If you don't have any, time to make some! don't need to worry about death or loss of relatives because that is a part of life. Cheer up buck, life gets better once you find that thing that makes you happy...AKA LOVE!

I have felt this way to, please don't think this way you should find what you enjoy and what you would want to do in the future to make you and your family proud tell them that you love them.

Go to college is the best thing you can ever do you make new friends do the course you enjoy and builds a brighter future.

I have some ideas:

1)Turn to God (recommended)

2)Turn To Satan (not recommended)