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My dad did the same to my mum for years and she kept taking him back supposedly for us kids, buy we were actually better off without him, he never bought us gifts, only his girlfriends kids, I understand where you are coming from though, I didnt buy my dad one for years, what about a card with a photo of you all at a happier time and just add a p.s. this is what you threw away, and you are worth more than him and your mother deserves better than him, might sound a little harsh but after all that is the reality, hope this helps and good on you for supporting your mum, I remember the nights she cried herself to sleep, she didnt know that I heard her and I didnt let on I knew, she raised us 3 kids alone pretty much anyway so when he said he was going to his girlfriends for dinner on my mum and dads 25th wedding anniversary that was the end of it, he said oh well, I'm going now and wont be back, I just said so what, who cares, you were never really here anyway, keep your chin up and dont let it get you down sweetie, its not worth it, really its not, I hope you and your mum can get on with life without him in it! :)

Wow. That's a toughie. I was in the same situation with my mom. I didn't know what to get her because I felt so betrayed. I think I ended up getting her something she normally used (this was years ago) and inexpensive. That way you are being polite, but if you don't feel comfortable, then don't do it. If anything, he is the one who owes something to you. If you don't end up gettin him anything, then don't blame yourself and don't allow him to make you feel guilty. You need time to heal too. Good luck. I'm sorry this happened. :(

Besides, if he asks, just say you couldn't afford it ;) the ultimate excuse!

Yes, get him a present. In the card write something like this "Despite what you've done, I will always love you dad, Merry Christmas."

Beats me

No, if he's as bad as he sounds. Maybe just send him a card.