their is this one girl who is spreading things about me saying my hair is greasy and I don't take showers. and some one told me that on facebook some one took my profile picture and drew all over it in like saying I don't take showers, that I have snot coming out of my nose, and apparently something about me hating animals, which is not true because I wish to be a vet. so after I heard this I had all these emotions telling me that it was not true, is, and I suffered from depression for 2 months and I hated it. I always knew there was a god but I found greater love with god though my depression. but when I hear people say things to me about that I'm not pretty it truly hurts me because I have such low confidence in my self. I have a lot of friends but really what does having friends mean when you can't be your own friend. I talked my mom into letting me do a up coming state pageant about 45 min away from my house but then some girl told me I don't really have "The look" how do I gain confidence in myself?
Answers & Comments
You know i was picked on at school as well. From personal experience you will gain your confidence in the coming years, you will see the people that picked on you will either get mixed up into bad things, or get fat and ugly themselves. As for the pageant its not for the girls to decide, its for the judges at the pageant. You just need to maybe go to salon and get your hair and nails done, and maybe it might help you feel beautiful; by doing that you can gradually grow the confidence you need towards the pageant. There are a lot of reasons to not do something, you just have to overlook those reasons in order to accomplish a new chapter in your life.
I agree you have to truly ignore people and their own childishnesss. Believe in who you are and what God has made you to be. We all have a purpose in life. Tell yourself everyday in the mirror things you love about yourself. Make positive affirmations to yourself such as "I am confident in who I am" and "I am going to become more than everyone thinks." I understand what you go through, because I used to have the same problem when I began high school and I've just recently defeated my depression and now working on gaining my confidence back so I can achieve my goals and dreams. :)
Awwweh huun! Hey ive been there, accept this guy who liked me and i didnt like him (im not trying to sound bad but i have a pretty face), called me fat and ugly, so i went anorixic worst time of my life last year, familt falling apart, bullying, no friends, i was so sad thats all i remember. I developed OCD, social anxiety, depression and honestley? I still have it. I went to a diff school this year and have tons of friends but still get flashbacks and it debiltates me. So my advice? Get the hell out of there, atleast in a diff school/class anything! And im sure you dont have greasy hair, but maybe just wash your hair a little bit more? And ignore the other garbage,im sure your a preetty girl you seem nice. Just remember kids are litterally the cruelest thing. Dont let someone like that kill you inside.. like me.
Gooooood luck :)
" Remember, this shall pass too"
Tomarrow go up to a merror (in a bathroom or whatever) and look at urself and think of 1 thing that you absolutly luv about urself (eyes smile hair what ever) and when ever someone makes fun of you just THINK (do not say out loud) well my ______ is (prettier better) than yours. Carry ourself off of that 1 thing.
Stand up nice and tall.
Ik u shower but mabie shower more often and make sure u use deoterent and if you want even some perfume!
Just say "*look at her from head to toe*well I wouldn't b talking" "Are you done yet" "excuse me but i have a life to live so if you wouldn't mind making this quick i'd appreciate it!" "Jeasus loves you too"
don't listen to what others say because later on in your life they are not going to be around you. don't give up on something you wanna do go give it a try for a pageant.. if you listen to other peoples nasty and rude opinions you will never get anywhere in life no one is perfect neither are they so they can shut there little mouths and sit in their sit and worry about them selves.
Don't believe their lies.
Don' take it to the heart and keep going on with your life.
If they see that it isn't bothering you they will stop.
My guess is that they are still saying those stuff to you because they see how it is affecting you and they are probably jealous of you.
Just act like that isn't bothering you.
You know these things aren't true. These people are just liars.
Hold your head up.
http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-Esteem
http://www.eruptingmind.com/helping-yourself-gain-...
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/confidence_ways.htm