Hello all.
My co-workers decided that we should throw a small but nice dinner party for our other co-worker's birthday (let's call him Billiam). Anyway, I offered to have it at my house and the party is set for Friday, everyone knows about it...
Well today I got a facebook chat from my other co-worker (let's call him Bart) and Bart says (**PS- I AM NOT USING HIS WORDS THAT HE USED AS THEY ARE INAPPROPRIATE BUT I AM GIVING YOU WHAT HE BASICALLY SAID!!!)***
Bart: Do you know that Billiam is a known gas passer?
ME: EXCUSE ME
Bart: Billiam is always passing gas and its gross
ME: WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME BEFORE
Bart: Thought you knew
OK........well......Now here is the predicament. I don't want Billiam to come on Friday. I am very sensitive to unkind stenches and absolutely *DETEST* passing gas, fart jokes, and anything of the like due to traumatic childhood experiences as well as a sensitive sense of smell and stomach... I can lose my lunch easily due to another's stenches (and have in the past)!!! So here is the thing, I already bought all the food I will be preparing and still want to continue with the dinner party but I don't want Billiam to come. Should I just tell him I cancelled it and continue anyway? Or should I sent him a quick text about the news I heard and how I cannot physically be in the same room as these stenches? Please help!
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That party is FOR Billiam so he can not be uninvited. Your only way to uninvite him is to uninvite everyone by cancelling the party at your home.
You work with him. If he was a known gas passer, you should know by now. Which makes Bart's comment suspicious.
But let's say it's true. In that case, you only have two options that will not severely impact you at work.
#1 - Cancel having the entire party.
#2 - Have the party, but keep your distance. Have a lot of scented candles burning & just keep finding excuses to be in a different room from Billiam. Place the cake at the farthest point from the room door & when it's cake eating time, have Billiam seated by the cake while you have your piece standing in the doorway.
I can certainly understand your issue, however I question the motives of the person who told you. Is it possible that "bart" just doesn't like "billiam", and is making up reasons to avoid being around him? It really seems like a rather childish reason to not invite someone to a party, as you don't know the REAL motives behind your co-workers gossip. I say you go ahead with the party, and seat billiam away from you. If you took back his invite, that could create a very tense work environment, that would likely backfire on you. Good Luck
If you have already invited everyone then do not uninvite someone. Instead seat that "gas passer" near a window or end of the table. Have a window opened a crack to let in fresh air during dinner AND have an automatic air freshener going off during dinner near that man's seat. Maybe invite his spouse or GF which might make him behave better during dinner.
If the party doesn't go well...due to his smell...then never invite him again. But for now just have air fresheners going off during dinner time all around the dining room and living room, etc.
I think you're going to need to invite this Bart.. it may be hurtful to tell him he can't come when all the other co-workers are allowed to..
If he passes gasses in your home, polietly take him to one corner (away from everyone else) tell him that you are aware of what he is doing and you would appreciate it if he would go out into the hallway or make use of the bathroom when he feels the desire to pass gass again.
ALL men are known gas passers. You should have known that when you committed yourself to host the farty party.