I have been married for almost 7 years and together 9 years. Since the beginning of the marriage my husband began lying to me and treating me harshly because I started gaining weight with my first pregnancy. Since then and even before, he struggled with porn but said he was done with it. Our courtship was founded on us fasting, praying and attending church together. Since our marriage and the death of his dad he has changed. He fell away from the Lord and did not want to attend church. When he decided to go back it was to a church that I did not want to attend but attended to keep our family together. Lately he has been lying about the porn...masturbating and watching it at work again and has been acting erratic and treating me harshly. I am so tired of how he treats me, the lies and unfaithfulness to God and to our marriage. I want to leave just because I cannot trust him on any level. Just tired of the whole thing. We have tried counseling a bunch of times and we always end up back in this position.
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If I were you I would pray and fast about it. God will tell you what to do. Have you ever given him an ultimatum. My sister in-laws sister was going through a horrible time in her marriage. Her husband was making her take as many shifts as she could so that she could pay all the bills and she was responsible over their autistic son. He said he couldn't help with the bills because he was saving up for a boat. She prayed about it and felt that she had to get divorce papers. It was when her husband realized that she was really going to leave him that something finally clicked in his pathetic head and he has come along way. If she hadn't followed that prompting things would probably still be bad for her. In your situation things sound even more ruff. I would feel awful if my husband was into pornography. No women should have to live with a husband doing evil things like that. Pornography messes with the brain so much and men start to see women as objects instead of people. That's probably why he has been treating you bad. Turn to the Lord and he will let you know what to do. There might be support groups for women in your position. I do feel for you and I know that God does too. And for the guy who quoted the bible saying" a women must submit to her husband". That is when a husband submits to the lord. That there is called unrighteous dominion. And when I say to pray about it I mean to pray to make sure it is the right thing. It is one thing to be married and another thing to be married with children. When you have children in the picture it is tough because you want to keep your family together but you also don't want the evil things that your husband is doing to be passed down on them.
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This book by an online friend of mine, Sherman, will offer you some comfort. He's a trifle wordy, but his research is good and his heart is great. I'm sorry this is happening to you, and wish you all the best, but you are right. There is an end point, and it sounds as though you have reached it.
all this is wrong but is not enough grown to separate, you gain much more if you stay to gather try to bring him back ,pout you charm up and try to give him a good time like you use to do, is up to you to Hull the house to gather, do the best you can, divorce is not the answer
I simply want to express my sorrow for your suffering and praise your religious conviction to God.
May God Bless you and guide you in your decision.
The Bible says to submit to your husband as unto the Lord.
Time to move on.
Crom approves your separate to your foolish man.You now belong to ME.I will protect you with my long sword for those you will attack you if you know what I mean.Hail
So, you're PMSing, got your panties in a wad, got at least one stuck cross-hair, and are an over emotional attention whore, and you try to blame your man ? Get over it !!!!
Do him a favor and find someone else.
Run away as fast as you can.