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I'm 19 and I remember I used to feel this way too. I remember when I was about 14 I would look at a mirror, and would start crying sometimes... You say you have a nice butt, thats a plus! If you want to lose weight, you have to work for it. And book yourself an appointment to get your brows tweezed :) I had horrible acne. So horrible that nothing worked and I finally got on accutane. I have no breakouts now, but I used to hate myself SO much when I had severe acne. Everytime I went to the mall and there was a mirror, I would avoid it. I also hated being Japanese for a while. I don't know why. I lived in a pretty predominately white neighborhood and I just felt so different and people would make fun of me when I spoke. Now, I seriously don't even know why I felt that way. I love being Japanese- I love my country, culture, language, and everything, and I pity all those people who gave me remarks of me being a Jap or whatever. You have to find the positives because as for race, there is nothing you can do. You were born that way. I remember I wanted to be white when I lived in that neighborhood. If someone were to ask me if I want to be white now, I would definitely say no. You just have to learn to love yourself. It's gonna be hard and like me it's gonna take years. But hating yourself isn't going to make anything better. I know lots of beautiful black women :)

You seem to have a good structure, big boobs, nice butt- everyone wants that. Just try hard to exercise and just doing that will make you feel like you're being productive. I am normal weight, but I am not a runner at all. I just can't run! So I just walk a lot and doing that still helps a lot. Just try walking for 30 minutes/cardio at least 5 times a day and you'll see a difference. I'm in college, and I gained so much weight when I went. I came back for summer and I worked out hard and I have lost 7 lbs now. Try putting a bit of makeup on and get clothes that fit your figure.

Pimples- for me I had to go to the dermotologist. Walgreens stuff didn't work at all for me but I doubt your acne is as severe as mine was so just try using clearasil or something. Or maybe go to the dermatologist and they might give you something like Differin!

These questions always make me sad because I've felt like before, it's horrible when you feel worthless. 13 is a terrible age. I'm only 16 so I still have some worries. I share some of the same worries as you, in fact.

My eyebrows used to be seriously 'messy'. Book yourself an appointment at a local beautician, who will shape them nicely for you, or if money is an issue then buy yourself some tweezers from ANY chemist and ask your mum or your friends to shape them. They will look a lot better.

To help tone your stomach hold it in when you're walking around, and also do sets of crunches and sit-ups throughout the day. You don't have to do 50 a day at a time - think little and often. Results will be noticeable soon enough.

If you feel like you need to lose weight then just start moving around more. I find exercise very therapeutic and you will honestly feel so much better about yourself if you start running/swimming/whatever - exercise not only boosts your self esteem but makes you look much better. I used to not bother doing anything but then I started a swimming club and I've lost loads of weight and everytime I get out the pool I feel great. Plus I've made loads of new friends. Exercise is so worth it - trust me. If you're not comfortable doing exercise with others then start going for walk/runs by yourself - this way you have peace and quiet and can clear your mind for a while. Again this makes you feel so much better both mentally and physically.

Also, you need to stop calling yourself ugly. If you go out there, and you think 'I am pretty' then trust me you will look it. Confidence is always so attractive on anyone. Sounds ridiculous but it's so true. I get compliments on my levels of confidence.

Ways to make yourself look better could include perhaps going to your local department store and getting a free makeover. From this you can decide what kind of make up suits you and you'll feel so glamorous with a new look.

As for your hair use deep conditioner often and try out loads of new looks - be creative - straighten it, curl it, put it up, clip it to the side, whatever. Type in 'hairstyles' on google images and see what you can find. Remember to look after it though. Dry damaged hair does'nt look good. I suffer from it.

The simplest, and most effective thing you can do to look appealing is to smile. You'll automatically be 100x more beautiful.

If you feel low then surround yourself with people you love. Talk to them about you feel. Never cut yourself - remember that you are beautiful and people who say otherwise are the ugly ones.

Hope you're alright soon :)

everyone answer mine please, i'd really appreciate some advice of any kind, it's so important to me

- sorry about the length

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Sweetie, you need to realize you already are beautiful! I understand that right now, what other people think is so very important to you. However, what you should understand is most people will see you how you see yourself. If you see yourself as pretty, confident, and can rule the world, other people will see you this way too! Also, people are like anything else in this world when it comes to selection. Think of all the different types of soda pop out there. There is coke, pepsi, mountain dew, dr. pepper, sprite, 7up, the list goes on and on. There are so many varieties because different people like different things. Some people like sprite, but not dr. pepper. People choosing other people are no different. That's why we are all different. I like brown eyed, pleasantly plump guys, who can make me laugh. This means that a blue eyed, too skinny, always serious, guy may not work for me. The most important thing however, is to get to know the person before you make a decision. Make your decision based on how that person treats you and how they make you feel. If someone is mean to you or says nasty things, don't take them to heart. Just let it slide and find someone else to hang out with. This goes for boyfriends and best friends!

If you want to loose weight, try to eat lots of fruits and veggies and exercise. There are lots of things you can do without a gym or extra items. Ways to sneak exercising into your day. Take a look at this site, http://thinnerthighs.net/ There are ideas here for dieting and exercising.

Most important thing to learn from this post is you are beautiful just the way you are.

P.S. I am 5'4 200 lbs and I have a 42D. I am happy with who I am and many people, not all people, like me just the way I am. Like I said, there are all types of people for all different tastes and likes.