can I get to be one of those confident, pretty, outgoing girls?
I know; don't change myself, don't be fake... I understand that, and I don't want to change who I am. But I just don't feel like I'm a teenage girl. I know everyone's different, but I always feel out of place when I go to the mall or school and there are so many perfect-looking girls with tons of friends. I have a nice hair color and a decent enough style (I don't like A & F or really expensive mall stores and I'm not super stylish, but I look good and not trashy or careless), but I'm not thin like everyone else. I'm not fat, I'm just a little bit... more to love? Haha.
And I have friends, but we don't do a lot and I always see people's Facebook statuses and hear them talking about their plans and I feel like I have such a lame social life. I talk to people at school, but many of people in my classes are kind of preppy and really pretty and not very outgoing or nice to me, so I feel like I don't really have a chance during the day, and with my good friends, it's not like we can hang out every second after school to make up for how I feel in the background during the schoolday.
Oh, and I'm a freshman, by the way.
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- If you're not confident, "fake it til you make it."
- Make your social life sound WAY better than it actually is, but don't lie. For example, if you spent all of Christmas vacation in Nebraska with your grandparents, say you went on a lovely vacation with some old friends to Nebraska and went sight-seeing and got some adorable souveniers. See? You aren't lying, but it makes your life sound way better, which is what the "popular" girls do.
- Try shopping at Forever 21, Wet Seal, Charlotte Russe, Aeropostale, American Eagle, Victoria's Secret, etc.
- Try to exercise more. If you feel bad because you have a bit "more to love", you can always shake that weight off easily, you just need a motivation. Don't be a couch potato!
- Try to flaunt the expensive things you have. If your totally rich Aunt Gwendolyn got you a real gucci purse for your birthday, take it around everywhere with you.
- Be more social, don't be a loner.
Those are some tips, I hope they helped!
Peace & love & best*of*luckk,
Crystal
we're in this together sister. i know EXACTLY how you are feeling. i feel the exact same way. im in 8th grade though but still its not much different. how i get through my day is that i appreciate the friends i do have and know that they appreciate me for who i am. i dont worry about the "pretty" girls cause i believe in the saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder. i dont see my friends outside of school and i dont go places with them either but as long as i get to see them is all that matters. as for style, i say only preps wear A &F and american eagle and aeropastle and all that. i have my own style. i wear what i want i dont care what anyone thinks of it. my classes are FULL of preps. they wear tons of make up and wear those expensive brands but i still get along with them,how? because even though i may not be as pretty as them i am till outgoing and make friends with anybody who will let me. looks are what catches the eye but personality catches the heart. so dont think that you have to be "pretty" to be outgoing. there are plenty of people out there who may not be the best looking on the outside but people love them anyway for who they are as a person. you can be out going and confident you just have to try.
its nice to know there is someone out there like me. feels good not to be the only one.if you want to talk more you can email me. hope i helped i wish you the best
I used to feel the same way so I actually started COPYING the preps and it got me no where. So I just said forget about trying to be like them I was myself. I made a few close friends and we do everything together and now the preppy girls wanna be me. haha I hate them bitches
to me it sounds like your at a point in your life where you are just feeling akward. i bet you are a very pretty girl and you shouldn't wanna be more like anyone else but you. honeslty who cares about all those preppy girls at your school. you just need to find new friends who are like you too. don't stree out about it though becase this is just high school. pretty soon you will be out in the real world and you will meet new people. for now just keep your head up.
Just fake it if your out of direction fake it if you don't belong just fake it if you feel like infection. You should know that the lies won't hide your flaws, no sense in hiding all of yours. You gave up on your dreams along the way.
Honestly if my boyfriend's chest was hairy I would want him to wax it or shave it or something because the whole hairy chest thing is kind of gross to me. And it is to a lot of girls! I would say do something about it. Your girlfriend would probably appreciate it :)
i feel the same way with my friends