21 year old self esteem issues?
I'm 21 years old Ive been told by alot of girls several times that im attractive, athletic , handsome n so fourth, but I feel like I'm not ,when I look in the mirror I see something ugly, because of that I'm really shy around people, I use to have a girlfriend that I was with for years but when she left me, my self esteem went lower, so I don't go out I'm isolated in my room a lot, when I want to go out I have no friends to go with, n when I do things on my own lonely. I have a job that involves interacting with people, some are nice with me but I'm scared to commute with them. So just wanna if something wrong or what I can do to increase my self esteem and so fourth
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The brain is a very complicated and delicate thing. It can get messed up (by a great loss or whatever) and be unable to produce any or enough serotonin. This is called a chemical imbalance which is easily treated, very common and nothing to be ashamed of.
It can cause depression, anxiety, panic, obsession, self harm/self hatred, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, sleeping problems, aggression/rage, anger, phobias, fears, helplessness, hopelessness, hypochondria, ADHD, paranoia, OCD, headaches, lack of interest in things, lack of motivation/ focus and much more.
Ask a dr. for anti-depressants. Zoloft/Sertraline is a good one; most people thrive on it and it has no side effects. With antidepressants, you will be much better, happier, calmer, confident, relaxed and feel normal. What a difference it makes!
According to nearly everyone who’s been to therapists, they don’t help much. They aren’t even allowed to prescribe appropriate meds to help you get better. Don’t stop taking the meds once you start to feel better. You need them, so stay on them.
But meds can do only so much. God is the ONLY one who knows what you’re thinking, how you’ve struggled and what you’re going thru. He loves you passionately and wants to be your BFF. He has a super deluxe custom made plan for your life that’s beyond anything you ever dreamed of.
BUT He waits for us to ask. Invite Him into your heart; ask Him to take over your life and your problems. You will feel so much better. You are His special masterpiece. He planned for you before He even created the universe.
Watch Him ease the stress and give you peace in it's place. He is on YOUR side. He never stops thinking about you. His thoughts toward you are more than the grains of sand on the beach (Psalm 139).
Find a big, HAPPY church, attend some groups and have fun. Talk with the pastor or youth pastor; he has more wisdom than you or I. And where else can you get counseling for free? Troubled people need PEACE. A good pastor can show you how to have perfect peace.
God loves you more than you can possibly imagine!! :)