I went to visit my sister a few hours away & my mom insisted I take her *new* car because she wanted me to take my little foster sister along. When I got to my sister's house, she was fighting with her husband. She quickly packed up as much stuff as possible & demanded we leave to go back to my mother's immediately.
I was driving, as my sister has night-blindness, and a deer came into the road. I saw him & slowed down. He turned to go back into the woods & then abruptly ran into the driver's side of the car. He dented the entire driver's side, bumper to bumper. Thankfully no one was hurt, but my mom was very upset because her car is only about 2 months old and I woke her up around midnight to let her know. Fast forward a few days, the insurance adjuster looked over the car & there is $4000 in damage. The deductible is $500. Here is where the problem arises.
I have offered to pay part of the deductible since I was driving. My mother does not feel she has to pay any part because she was not with us when the accident occurred. My sister does not feel she has to pay any part because she was not driving. They both agree that since I was driving and my sister does not work (and I have 2 jobs) that I should pay the entire amount. I feel like this is unfair. I don't mind paying a portion of the deductible since I was behind the wheel, but I feel like I am being punished. To me it seems that the blame has been dumped entirely in my lap. It wasn't as though I was texting & speeding & totaled the car. A deer ran into the side of the car & I'm being held completely responsible because I am the only passenger that has a job.
Also- I had every intention of using my own car. My mom wanted me to take hers because it would be more comfortable for the kids in the back seat & it was better on gas. I planned to stay a few days at my sister's & leave right after lunch so that we could take the kids to a nice museum on the way home. I had planned it so that we could stop & see the museum, eat dinner, and be home before 9pm. I planned it that way so that I wouldn't have to drive tired or late at night since we live in a very rural area with lots of wildlife.
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wow, your mother should pay, her car, her choice, her insurance
she is obviously more concerned with her bank account than her families welfare
i have 3 older teens, in this position, we would pay the excess and be glad no one was hurt
you have offered half, thats more than generous
you need to sit her down and explain as you have here
she HAS to take her responsibility in all of this
glad no one was hurt though
The map you posted lists tribes located within the latest u.S.A. So of course it's not going to incorporate many of the Canadian and Mexican tribes alongside the bordering regions. However, that doesnt make these groups any less indigenous. Indigenous men and women have lived on this continent for thousands of years however the borders that separate these nations today are man made and have only existed for a number of centuries. The modern day border between the united states and Mexico was most effective centered after the U.S. Defeated Mexico and annexed lots of the Southwest. If the border had been situated further north or south, the tribes labeled as "american indian" would have been special. In any event, Mexican tribes like the Maya and Inca have been placed additional south and didnt have any direct interaction with the tribes in the USA Southwest. Nonetheless, there was once a lot more interaction among the many various tribes in the USA Southwest and northerly Mexico areas before their land used to be divided they usually had been pressured on to reservations. It was once flawed of your grandmother to with ease disregard the tribes further south as invaders. They shared cultural as well as ethnic ties with some businesses but had conflicts with different companies just as was once the case with every other neighboring tribes. By the way, there are genuinely a couple of tribes that also dwell on each side of the border at present just like the Pima, Tohono Odham and Yaqui. Anyway, in case your half of Mexican fiance is of Mayan or Aztec descent then your grandmother must don't have any intent to harbor animosity towards those exact tribes in view that there isn't any recorded proof that they had clash with southwestern US indians.
ok first your mother should have to pay all of it because she had you take it. she should be greatful that her child (because most would not) even offered to pay half. She had you take her car because you were taking your younger foster sister. Your other sister whom was fighting with her husband should not have to pay anything it had nothing to do with her as you said she has night blindness which is why she wasnt driving in the first place. Your mother should have realized before she let you take her new car taht accidents happen and its her responsability. besides didnt she have you take her car because you were taking you little sister and she deemed it more safe in case of an accident?? therefore you should pay 250 and she should pay 250 she should just be greatful that everyone was okay.