My friend Ahmya had a baby when she was 15 she was pregnant in the 8th grade and had the baby at the end of 8th grade. Her daughter will be 4 in April and Ahmya said that she Will NEVER EVER tell her baby daddy that he has a daughter because he "raped" her he was 18 and she was 15 but I think she was lying about that cause she usted to talk about how cute and stuff he was and ect. So now the baby is about to be 4 and Ahmya said that right after they had sex "they baby daddy" went to college in Texas so he don't know that he could have a baby. She made me promise her that I wasn't never gone try to find him but I didn't promise cause I want the baby to know her daddy...all I know is his first and last name that's all I know about him I tryed to look him up on facebook but I don't know... so what should I do ? Every child deserve a father
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Not your place to mess, leave it alone
I know how terrible it can be to be raised by a single parent, but you shouldn't tell a mother how to raise her child. I have a friend who never knew who her father was and she turned out fine. The most you can do is encourage your friend to go after the dad for child support. She deserves that money, but if she feels used and raped by this man don't reach out to him. It's completely disrespectful to her and it's not how a friend should act. Friends don't go behind one another's back.
In my state an 8th grader and an 18 year old is definitely statutory rape. Even if you don't see it that way the law does. Even without the law he was definitely too old to be having sex with her in the first place so even if she liked him, he should have been more responsible and not gotten her pregnant. Maybe she said stop because she wanted a condom but he didn't and she liked him so she didn't make a fuss. That's still rape. Whatever happened, you need to respect your friend's wishes, but if she hates him, you may be able to convince her to take his money, and maybe that will lead to the father becoming involved in the child's life, but legally he has no rights to that child, and he sounds like a dirt bag to me. What kind of adult has unprotected sex with an 8th grader? Why would you think this man would be a good father figure? It's really none of your business to get involved in, and it doesn't do you any good to stress so much over other people's problems. I know it's tough but sometimes you have to have faith in the choices your friends make, because it's their life and their choice in the end. If you want to be a good person just support your friend and be a good example for her child.
An 18 year old having sex with a 15 year old IS rape. And saying a guy is cute is no excuse to that guy taking advantage of an underage girl.
It's not up to you to want the baby to know her daddy. Butt out. No child deserves a sleazebag of a father who preys on 15 year olds.
Are you serious? You don't know if he raped her or not. Just because she liked him doesn't mean she wanted to have sex. Haven't you heard of date rape? So does every child deserve to grow up with a rapist? Because he very well could be just that. Second, this baby is (thank god) NOT yours, and therefore none of your damn business. If the mother was abusive or couldn't take care of her, then you would have a reason to but into their lives. From the sound if things, she is doing just fine and trying to protect her child. How dare you come along and decide that you have a right to put someone else's child in the hands of a potential rapist. I sincerely hope you are trolling. Whether you are or not, you don't deserve to breath. Please disappear.
First of all, please stay in school. You can't spell for crap and sentences doesn't make sense. Second of all, wth is a 15 yr old doing in 8th grade? At that age, I was in 10th grade. You need to mind your business and respect your friend's wishes. You do not know what type of person this man is. He could be a child molester. No, every child does not need a father that rapes,molest,kill,Rob,steal,abuses,violent,etc.....mind your own business kid!!!!
You really shouldn't do anything. It isn't your business. Even if you do tell him, she will say you are lying. If he is far away he wouldn't rush back for a DNA test.
be the fatha.......