Me my gf have been going out for 3 months now . I don't think of my self as being a jealous or a controlling.
But, she has talked about her ex fwb and how did they have sex, and how big he was. She said he was in the long-distance relationship with someone, but he kept hitting on my gf ( she was single at that time) and my gf thought he was going to break up with his gf. So after a while, she saw him at where she works ( she works at the mall). And they had some convo. I felt so uncomfortable that now he knows where she works so they would have a chance to see each other sometimes. So I talked to my gf how I felt about the whole situation and I blamed her the way she was with him even though she knew he has a gf. And I checked her phone with her permission and I found his number on her phone and I asked her to delete his number. So she deleted his number and she said she would never meet him personally.
I felt bad at the same time that she was crying while she was explaining it to me. I talked to my best friend about it and she said I made a big mistake by demanding her not contacting with him, blaming her past with him). Should I apologize to my gf for those reasons? or what should I do to make it better for our relationship?
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If you showed that you were jealous then I think you did the right thing because women like to test their men to see how much they are into them. If she was crying while explaining the situation to you she probably feared that you were going to break up with her because she took the whole thing to far. If she hadn`t cried I would be saying break up with her because she won`t be loyal but the fact that she became emotional over this means that she really likes you.
She was probably talking to her ex a lot because it is hard to stop being friendly with someone that you have been intimate with, it creates a mutual friendship... I doubt that she is still into him so you don`t have anything to worry about.
If you feel bad about the whole thing take her on a romantic date, bring her chocolate or a necklace at her work, show her that you want other people to know that she is yours because we women like the whole possessive man thing because it makes us feel wanted, protected, and secure.
Coming from a girl in a long term relationship. I do not believe you did anything wrong. I personally believe that if you love the person you're with and want it to last then that person should come first. When I first started dating I learned this. I've had to let people go and for good reasons. If an ex boyfriend or ex sexual partner makes one uncomfortable I feel it's healthy to cut off ties with them. Tears and pain are part of all relationships at some point. But the more considerate of the each others comforts you are, I've discovered how amazing a relationship will be in the long run. You can apologize for making her feel sad, but not for being truthful to her. I'd choose honesty and tears over lies any day.
My subject is that with each and every wide awake action it is taken there is theory it is in touch and extreme errors, properly, one, ok, 2, ok, 3, in keeping with possibility, after that, HELL NO. errors are in basic terms that, issues that take place because of fact the end results of defective thinking, after the errors already viewed, the only making the errors might desire to have discovered. human beings can't be taught from all of their person errors, yet might desire to take heed to the errors made through others, and be taught from them, so, one person in basic terms can't be a finished "F" up all their existence. So i assume what i'm asserting is the answer to this question relies upon on your point of coping with such human beings, there'll come a time, once you will say adequate is adequate and that could be the tip of it. God Bless.
Been there. Done that.
You made a mistake; you're supposed to wait for her to cheat, not try to control her.
I instead of a wonderful opportunity to put your faith and trust in this woman (that, admittedly, she would probably betray), you decided to do the opposite and control her. Now, she will struggle away from your domineering.
She's already gone from you.
Her presence from now and until the end of your relationship, will be only as a shadow.
No chance. Your biggest mistake was for not getting rid of her when you learned that she has no objection to shagging some traitor who is in a relationship with someone else.
As for not blaming her for her past? Why the hell not? She's the one responsible for her past, who else is there to blame?
Yes. Voldemort deserves to serve your a*** on a platter. Just ditch her or it'll be the whole Ron/Lavender situation in reverse! LEARN FROM HARRY POTTER CHARACTER'S MISTAKES!
If you hit her in the back of the head with a brick you will be able to whatever you want to her
Okay, apologize, and no you didn't do anything wrong at all !!
For me actually, that wouldn't bother me at all, I think that jealousy is cute, but some people think it's rude .. etc.
I think you should apologise as she might just like his friendship nothing more. So they have history. But remember she's with you!!
Answer mine?
Drop that hoe.