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Stay yourself. You sound unique and you should be proud of that!

I don't think that your look or strong personality is affecting your dating life... and even if your personality was, would you want to be with someone who didn't like you for you? Of course not!

I don't think that you scare guys away. Maybe it just is your lack of confidence... sometimes people can read that about us. That's why you'll hear a lot of people complain that they only get asked out when they're already taken (we tend to have a bit more confidence when we're in relationships and I feel like other people can really sense that confidence!).

As far as flirting tips go, be yourself. Be approachable. Smile more frequently -- if you catch yourself with a mopey/indifferent look on your face, smile!!! Many guys are shy. You don't have to be the one to ask a guy out but you could make it a bit easier for him... Say you see a good looking guy. Say "Hi, how are ya?" or just smile and say "Hi." See if he continues the conversation. It sounds simple but it gets things rolling. Then follow up with smiling, eye contact, being genuine...

I'm guessing the reason you can't get a date since you've left college is because you're not around as many people as you were at school (thus, decreasing the likelihood of you meeting someone or them meeting you). Do you work? Any good looking guys there? Where do you hang out in your spare time? Join a new club, walk your dog around the neighborhood more... Get out there!

Someone out there will love your personality the way it is. Being "one of the guys" will come in handy. A guy wants a girl who can hang with his friends and talk like a sailor (:

Good luck, girl! Hang in there! xoxo

You say you have a strong personality and like vulgar jokes and whatnot.

Let me try and give the best answer here

If you act boyish or like a guy, the guys will see you more as a friend than a compatible date. Plus like what was said, guys don't like women with strong personalities...most likely you'll have to pull back and act more girlie. I know most guys wouldn't go out with a feminist or a girl who would seem to be the dominant one in the relationship or at least on par with the guy.

The sad fact is you'll just have to change, or find that 1 out of 10000 guy which you most likely won't.

best idea though, act more sexy, make guys see that you are a girl, stay yourself, but pull back a bit and just sex it up so guys would want you for other reasons than to play pool with and get drunk.

You have to show them your a 100% woman simple as that

May be you just need to tone it down a little ;-)

Completely changing yourself or developing a nice/suitable/expected type of personality to get a date is a bad idea.

I actually have similar prob. I am funny and easy going but I can also be idiotically harsh/blunt (not so much on the dirty mouth though) at times. Yea that totally goes against my looks too lol I have scared a lot (A LOT LOT) of ppl away but I'm not really upset cause that just means they weren't really for me.

Being yourself may not get you anywhere right now but it sure will in the future =) you're not old or hopeless!!!

Actually it doesn't matter. Some people like aggressive female.

I'm quite passive guy and a bit silent especially when meeting with female so i tend to get attracted by aggressive female (because they can break the "ice" / make things more enjoyable).

So just be yourself.

As a tip from me. It wouldn't hurt if you just hold your vulgarness / aggressiveness a bit. This way, you will look like a active hot female with interesting personality, but not cheap one.

I would lose the dirty mouth - guys don't like cussing in a girl they just met. Not the hard core offensive type anyway (I don't know if that's what you mean). I have that wholesome look as well. Unfortunately I don't have the "easy conversation" part, being that I'm more on the shy side.

An attractive woman that has vulgar humor is seen as intimidating by a lot of men. Basically a lot of men will think 'I can't get her anyways' and just not try, while in fact you're waiting for someone to try. So you don't have to be fake, but it might be wise to sometimes just stay quiet for a bit or instead of having an immediate reaction, act a bit shy/embarrassed.

We are alike, my friend. I used to be the most blunt, vulger girl ever and I'm pretty attractive so guys would be a little shocked. However, I went through depression and mental illness and it toned me down a bit. I've learned that you can be yourself but in ways that don't offend people. Now if you're not offending anyone, just keep being yourself because there's a guy out there who will love you for you!

i have gotten that spot too, i guess because im so comfortable around guys, having mostly had guy friends my whole life.

the guys you are interested in you kind of need to be yourself but be obviously.. but not too much interested in them..

i see nothing wrong with you, the way you make yourself sound, sounds a little like me actually, and ive never had a problem with it..

i just make sure they know i like them!

I understand your feeling. You don't need to be fake. Just be yourself but more sensitive with other people feelings. Don't treat everyone the same way because everyone have different personality and characteristics. Just accept them the way they are and be sincere to them. Don't worry, someday you'll find someone special for you.

Hope all the best for you ^^ (sorry, for incorrect grammar)

Ah, I feel you. I was reeling 'em in when I lived at college, but when I left for a year+ it was a loong drought.

It most likely has more to do with your environment than you. You seem to be quite the looker and the personality to boot.