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If you last colored your hair four month ago, then the black should be fairly faded by now. I would see a professional, but you could try a color in a lighter brown, such as a medium brown. This color would look good with some highlights. You should decide what you would like better though, because you're the one who has to wear it!

Tell him that you don't want to damage your hair, that you can't keep doing this. I will tell you this... for years, I have been perming. Finally, I am 35 and 2 years ago, my hair started falling out after my last perm. I today went to have my hair cut and it's to my neck, I hate it, but I need to restart the living cycle of better hair. Try not to damage it anymore, and tell him he married you for you, not to keep changing your hair. If he doesn't like it then whoopie. My husband flipped out over my hair (I did too) but he knew that before it was going to get better that something had to be done. We both like long hair, he likes it curly, and I just want it the natural way it is suppose to be for now on. We only have one body, and what we do to it in our youth reflects on how it will be when we are older and start losing our youth.

It is your hair do what you want to do. But if you want to go lighter do it in stages and go to a good salon to have it done other wise you will end up really damaging your hair. I have seen people have there hair go weird colors or even get really dry and all break off, so do not do not lighten it yourself!!!

It's your hair. Do what you want, not what someone else wants.