Verified answer

Just tell her, she'll understand. Tell her the ones she buys for you don't fit, it's nothing embarrassing. Or, when your near the bra section again, pick out a real bra and go to your mom and say "This looks like it'll fit me perfectly since my training ones are to small and tight! Can I get some more of this kind?"

Well, if your just 12, that's not really a total desperate age for a bra unless your breasts are on the larger side, just make sure your not doing this because you want to feel older or anything because when your older, TRUST ME you'll wish you had never even looked at a bra haha...but w/e

if they are, you do need one or people will make fun of you, and I'm not trying to hurt your feelings or anything, I've seen it happen to people, especially when people are younger and don't know any better.

Tell your mom that and tell her the trainer ones are hard to breath in and you need a real bra. You should tell her as soon as you can, or it'll be harder the next time. If she can't except that, honestly, you should just go out and buy it yourself, she cannot get mad at you for that if you really need one.

Okay these simple steps will help you alot if you put forth the effort.

Practice stating your problem, while alone, as bluntly as possible. This way there will be no misunderstandings. Say something along these lines: "Mom, I think I'm ready for a bra. Do you think we could go shopping for them sometime soon?" Or, if you don't want to try that, try saying something like this: "Mom, these tank tops are too long and they make me sweat a lot! Can you think of something shorter and more thin to wear?"

Don't be nervous. It's natural in every young woman's life when a bra becomes a necessity in their lives. Your mother also was once a young woman who needed a bra and now it's your turn. Avoid shaking and sweating and approach her with your normal self confidence. She'll be concerned if she sees you so nervous.

Ask! Moms were girls once, too, and they've bought plenty of bras before. If your mom is surprised, it's probably because you've grown up quicker than she expected. Try to catch her while she is in a good mood alone. Maybe in the garden or reading a book, or maybe even on a walk.

Drop a few hints. Say things like "Mom, this shirt is too tight!" or "I need a tank top under this shirt.". Or you could even purposely try on small shirts at the mall and she'll realize you need one.

Wait for the perfect time. It may feel awkward to just say ask for a bra. You may want to wait for a time when other people won't be listening in.

Ask her to measure you and go shopping when dad and annoying siblings aren't going.

If she says no, don't feel discouraged, ask later, but not too many times, or else she'll just be annoyed.

There's no reason to be embarrassed about needing a bra. It's a normal part of growing up. If you'd rather keep it quiet, though, you may want to avoid stores with large crowds or where you always seem to see people you know.

Another good way to ask is while you are alone without your siblings and your dad in the car with your mom while she is driving. She will be 3/4 concentrating on driving and 1/4 concentrating talking to you. It is way less embarrassing because you both aren't looking straight at each other. Don't feel too bad about asking your mom or anyone else, because they went through it too.

Don't be afraid, she won't be mad if you ask!

ask friends for advice, they can probably make it alot easier.

Try grabbing a bra to "try on" the way to the dressing room with your mom. She'll see whether it's the right time for you to wear it or not.

*Hope this helps!*

Your mom should be able to see that you need one -- unless she's just not that aware! Just go say -- "Mom, we need to go to the Mall (or store) -- I need a bra. It's getting embarrasing." No other expanations needed. It would help you to know how to measure for the right size - so get a cloth measuring tape (like you sew with) -and measure around your chest where the "band" will go - write that down.And ADD 3 inches. If an odd number- round up one size.This is your Band size. Now measure around your bust at the fullest part(across your boobs) -and write that down. Subtract the other number from it - The difference will give you the "cup size" - less then 1"=AA, 1"=A, 2"=B etc. Once you know what your size should be - it will be easier to try on a bra. Not all bras are made the same, so find one that is comfortable, doesn't pull up in the back, and doesn't "gap" around the cups. If mom gives you money - go buy one for yourself - why would you be awkward around your friends?- they told you you needed a bra! Good luck --

Honestly I was in the same position when I was younger too... All you can do is sit down and talk to her. Since you are kinda leaning towards going at it in a round about way try hinting at the fact that the training bras just aren't cutting it. Or put one on and ask her if she thinks it fits right, then be like, It feels sorta small...maybe then she'll get the hint.. If all else fails, just talk to her! After all, she's your mom, and what's the worst that could happen? Best of luck.

You have to tell her. Say "Mom, even if you don't think I need a real bra, I do. I'm almost a teenager and training bras just aren't cutting it." Or when you're in the store pick one you like up and say "Do you think this would fit?" Not that difficult, honestly.

Well your mom just doesn't want you to grow up too fast. or maybe she just thinks you want it because of your friends,or you want it to look bigger. but i understand. i wasn;t the one to tell my mom i needed real bra's she told me! haha. all you need to do is tell her why. say mom i think im ready to get a real bra. none of those training bra's fit and i really want to experience how it feels to wear one. I mean come on your almost a teenage!

Aw SAME WITH ME :'( It sucks...and i still havent even got as far as u yet with asking her and im 13

She is a shy Mom i guess.... I'll be looking at more of these answers...

Maybe you can like idk Break/Ruin/stain/(or something) the one u have and she''ll see it and maybe she'll think you need a bigger better one?

Hhaha...Idk but maybe

Try walking over to the bra section, and when she picks one up, suggest you go and try it on. THEN she'll see. (I really need to do that myself, same situation!)

when i said it to my mom i just... well i don't remember exactly, but i told her i needed a bra, and when we got into the store, i just showed her the one i wanted...