how do you cope knowing that the person you love is not only wanting a baby but he is starting to work and he is saving up his money for your future yet you dont have the courage to tell him to stop becuz your not going to have his baby any time soon and he needs to exept the fact that your just not ready!! but every time you see him you think omg i wanna have your baby but i cant. he doesn't totally pressure you into it but you know how bad he wants one and the more that he talks about the more you want one and then he gives you a mushy love cd that you just cant stop listening to and your fav song on it is with open armss by creed!!! and that song talk bout how somone is bout to have a babh and how excited he is.. Created by i luv david :) (:. family-relationships-en - singles-dating-en

how do you cope????

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how do you cope????

how do you cope knowing that the person you love is not only wanting a baby but he is starting to work and he is saving up his money for your future

yet you dont have the courage to tell him to stop becuz your not going to have his baby any time soon and he needs to exept the fact that your just not ready!! but every time you see him you think omg i wanna have your baby but i cant. he doesn't totally pressure you into it but you know how bad he wants one and the more that he talks about the more you want one and then he gives you a mushy love cd that you just cant stop listening to and your fav song on it is with open armss by creed!!! and that song talk bout how somone is bout to have a babh and how excited he is.

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You will just have to be totally honest and frank with him - let him know how much he means to youand how much you love him but that you both need to be working and saving up for your and your babies future . Its a heck of a commitment to bring another life into this world not just emotionally but financially too . Make him understand that you want yourselves and any child to have the best opportunity to grow and be fit and healthy and that you can support them while bringing them up and you can only do that by working at it together . Dont be pressured or blackmailed into giving in to his demands however dreamy and rosey he might paint the picture you both have to be realistic and think this through very seriously . I'm guessing he is perhaps feeling insecure dep down and sees having a baby as a way of holding on to you and not losing you but if you are so against it at the moment then he has to see that that may push you away too.

Openness and honesty is the only option fo ryou and I'm afrais if you can not make him see that now is not the right time then maybe you have to consider whether this realtionship is right for you too. Sorry if that sounds pretty harsh and unfeeling but you have a right to make decisions that are going to affect your lives and you can not let him imose his will on you . If he loves you so much he should understand and appreciate that . Good Luck