You don't need to "educate" her as if she is a dog!!! first of all, your current situation must me the consequence of something... what has been happening between you two?? haven't you tried to consider that she must be even less satisfied than you are?? you are thinking just about "fingering" and stuff like that when maybe the source of the problem is communication?, empathy? and understanding??? anything else Beyond the mere sexual act? And don't even try to take this situation as an excuse and cheat on your wife now!! That would very selfish and even immature for a man of your age... Try to listen what she has to say and DON'T JUDGE her of having traditional thoughts... im sure there's a lot to save in in your marriage, even more after 22 years!!!!! Good luck and sorry If I spoke strongly but men sometimes are so thoughtless....
The other folks have noted that you didn't leave too much information, so it is a little tough to be very specific. But if I might, I would like to offer an article I wrote that may be a good starting point. Here it is:
I don't know whether a marriage that's gone that far downhill can ever be saved. after all, you both have to be completely honest with each other about what exactly you can't live with. maybe you take your dentures out at night and put them on the nightstand; maybe you don't shower before bed and she gets gassed out. or it could all be opposite and she does all those awful things -- and more.
if you are both committed to saving this marriage; then a marriage counselor is your first stop. speak to your family doctor and see if they can refer you to a good one.
My dear friend,first of all tender sincere and heartfelt apology to your partner even if you are right and promise to behave henceforth. Try to be accommodative and stop arguing and fighting. These small things may work.
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You don't need to "educate" her as if she is a dog!!! first of all, your current situation must me the consequence of something... what has been happening between you two?? haven't you tried to consider that she must be even less satisfied than you are?? you are thinking just about "fingering" and stuff like that when maybe the source of the problem is communication?, empathy? and understanding??? anything else Beyond the mere sexual act? And don't even try to take this situation as an excuse and cheat on your wife now!! That would very selfish and even immature for a man of your age... Try to listen what she has to say and DON'T JUDGE her of having traditional thoughts... im sure there's a lot to save in in your marriage, even more after 22 years!!!!! Good luck and sorry If I spoke strongly but men sometimes are so thoughtless....
The other folks have noted that you didn't leave too much information, so it is a little tough to be very specific. But if I might, I would like to offer an article I wrote that may be a good starting point. Here it is:
http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/2013/06/save-yo...
I hope you find the answers you need!
Best wishes.
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
www.SaveTheMarriage.com
I don't know whether a marriage that's gone that far downhill can ever be saved. after all, you both have to be completely honest with each other about what exactly you can't live with. maybe you take your dentures out at night and put them on the nightstand; maybe you don't shower before bed and she gets gassed out. or it could all be opposite and she does all those awful things -- and more.
if you are both committed to saving this marriage; then a marriage counselor is your first stop. speak to your family doctor and see if they can refer you to a good one.
First, both need to be willing to try to save it. Then look for help depending on what the issues are, a couples therapist would be a good start.
I beleive in destiny but I still think you have to fight to save your marriage. Especially if you have children.
This ebook is a good resource to understand causes of your marital issues and to learn some important tips --> http://savemarriage.toptips.org/
Open communication is the first step.
What comes next depends on what the communication brings out.
My dear friend,first of all tender sincere and heartfelt apology to your partner even if you are right and promise to behave henceforth. Try to be accommodative and stop arguing and fighting. These small things may work.
Bring in the relief pitcher.
What ever your situation is this will help ;)
There are many articles under "couples and children" here.
I hope this helps :)