i am 22 years old. i met my husband when i was 18 and he was 27. he was my first in everything. we've been together for 4 years and married 1 out of those 4yrs. i love him with all my heart, but lately i started noticing changes in myself. it's kind of embarrassing to talk about, but i don't know what to do anymore. before everything was just fine, but lately i haven't been enjoying our sex life. i want to have sex ALL the time and think about it all the time. i want to have more aggressive sex and he is more mild. we talked about it and he said that he will try but it's not good enough for me. plus i want to experience the feel of a bigger p...s. i don't know what to do, i love my husband but it feels like i want to experience more. please give me some advise on what should i do :( thank you in advance
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Although you got married too young and you are still maturing and developing into an adult, you are in this situation. Best solution is to seek counseling. You sound normal, and this can be worked out. It is more than a phase, it is a real emotional confusing time. Don't just settle for any counselor, shop around and find one that you can work with. The will probably want to see you alone and maybe some joint sessions. Since you are aware of how you feel, that is the first step in getting through this, you can get it worked out.
This is why young people need live, love, laugh, experience, and do things that don't require a committed relationship. You were 18. He's your first for everything...no wonder why you are already having your 7 year itch. Sure its do able for some people to get serious at a very young age...but to me it sounds like it wasn't the best life choice for you.
Your married. And your marriage deserves a lot more from you, then you are putting in. You want bigger? Buy a strap on. Have him wear it. And then he can take you by both holes...its pretty big then. More then you could possibly imagine.
And sex is about the 2 people involved. YOU need to experience that together with him...not look for something bigger or more exciting, or whatever else have you. You need to explore sexuality together as a couple. He is your husband, you are his wife. End of story. And there are a million ways you can spice up your sex life. Don't live the rest of your life with it only being vanilla. Find a way to make it everything that you want it to be.
Don't be a skank, leave him before you cheat on him because that is inexcusable, if you love him, these things shouldn't really even matter that much unless you have some kind of a problem. The thing is that you don't know anything else, so you want to see what other men are like, but it;s probably not worth it. You would probably just cheat on your husband with a guy who ended up lasting only five seconds in bed and asks to c*m on your face, so I'd say don't take what you have for granted and risk ending your marriage and having a guilty conscience on some potentially WAY less than favorable sex, is it worth it? Just buy a huge dildo, it'll be fine.
well when you were 18 he was your all now that you are 22 you look back and kind of wish you waited on the marriage and had some fun your body will go Thur many life changes for the better you will often evaluate your life it is ok it is totally normal when you are around 25 that will all stop until you are 30 another at 40 thenduringgmenopausee it is all natural just lookaroundd and see if you can find more to the relationship than sex
After 4 years you are just now having these feelings??? Hard to beleive that these feeling just popped up on you,,,,,,, Read and study the true meaning of your wedding vows,,,, Understand what those words mean
;To Have and Hold, in sickness or health, for richer or poorer, in good times and bad, till death due you part""""" If you can nit abide by these words get out now before you bring any children into this realtionship and destroy there lives too Good Luck
ok, let me break it down for you....
Bigger doesn't equal better, I have been with both and it's what they DO with what they already have that counts
Want to know what the problem is? You're married.
In the vows it says "for better or for worse", right?
Have you ever bought furniture for better or for worse? What about a TV or washer/dryer? A cel phone?
Hell no, if you run into problems with those things you have the option of returning them as soon as possible.
There is no customer service/returns desk in marriage. You signed a contract with no warranty. Keep your receipt, frame it, and smile.. there's not a return option. It blows...I know.
My advice? Put IN to sex what you want to get OUT of sex and it will be better.
You got married too young!! You needed to go out and explore the world before you settled down with one guy.
I think you need counseling, not as a couple but, you.
this issue is a reflection of a certain level of maturity and that you are getting complacent in the marriage, both of you need to talk and work together.
Is your marriage worth an extra inch or 2? Be aggressive and grab him by the p...s and tell him what you want.
Get some women toys and play with yourself, get some bigger ones.