her parents are divorced as a result of her dad's cheating, and as a result of that she NEVER trusts me. i can't go out with out a bunch of questions, and though i can tolerate it i don't think it is healthy, i have tried talking calling while out and other over the top methods of proving myself but she just is paranoid, i am begining to think i can never get her to trust me... advice please...
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Paranoid, isn't what she is. She is insecure and yes probably has a trust issue because of what her dad did to her mom. Trust is very important to have in a relationship. You may not ever get her to trust you and that will put a strain on your relationship, as I can see that it already has. Point out the fact that your not her father, you haven't done anything that would show any kind of mistrust on your part. I can only go by your side of the story. I don't know how long you 2 have been together, but if it's been at least 6 months; and she still won't trust you, it might be time to move on. This situation is pretty much a hard one to give or get advice on. Get as much info as you can before deciding how to handle it. Also, if she is willing; go to a counselor.
Give her time, she will find it hard to trust again. Just prove to her you are genuine and trustworthy, tell her you love her, want to be with her and only her etc etc. Don't hide anything. Keep your mobile phone where she can see it etc and don't sneak about. May take a while, but I am sure it will be worth it in the end. Just proves how much she thinks of you as well.
Obviously her parents divorce traumatized her, which is normal. Just keep reminding her that you love her, that YOU trust her so she should trust you also. That you wouldn't do anything to hurt her, that you're there for her always. It might take time for her to trust anyone for that matter. But if you really love her you'll stick around and tell her that. Tell her that she has nothing to worry about and that you'll never purposely hurt her.
To be honest, there is nothing YOU can do. Shes just gonna have to get over her dads behaviour and learn to that not all guys are like him.
You'll just have to tell her that you can't be in a relationship where you are constantly being judged to be the worst.
If her parents divorced when she was young; ultimate betrayal to a little girl. If it happened in her teens; she should have been old enough to process it. An adult: grow up. Try and see if she would be willing to get some counselling for this issue.