My ex bf broke up with me through a txt about a week ago. He said he wanted to be friends. I will admit when he broke up with me, some of my text messages to him, were a little harsh but I was really mad at him. Anyway I txt him about a couple of days later and told him I was sorry about everything I said and he said it was cool. Well another couple of days go by and then I text him again being all friendly and acting like nothing happened! no response after a couple of days. My question is, why is he like avoiding me and not talking to me at all? Do all guys do this or what? I am really confused on this whole thing! Also he is constantly staring at me and he seems to always be around me. (he was never like that when we went out) And his friends always give me these looks like they are spying on me or something. Please, please, please help!!!!! thanks!!!!!!
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look, if he just wants to be friends, he wants that distance. if you start texting him, even if it's friendly, he will assume you're trying to ease up to him because you still like him and want to be more than friends (even if its not your intention). just relax and act as if you're acquaintances. he wont turn back to you until he's convinced that you are just a friend and don't want anything more than that.
regardless, its not your fault, so just sit back and relax, although it may be hard to do. again, he just feels that you being friendly means you like him still and want more than a friendship. even if its not the case, just give him his distance, but dont be mean to him.
There are two issues involved here that you need to honestly answer. Do you still love him and want him back?. If the answer is no, why then you do care so much that he does not text you as you would like ?. Although he broke up with you via a text( you did not give a reason for the breakup) and he said he wanted to remain friends, he could have changed his mind the same way you did.You changed your mind and posture from being harsh and mad at him to wanting to be friends and he could also have changed his mind and no longer wants to be friends. If you still love him and want to explore the possibility of a reconciliation, then you need to be open with him about that option.This is where the initial reasons for the break up become important and critical as they may foreclose any possibility of a make up. If on the other hand you do not want him back, then do not worry about his silence ;after all he initiated the end of the relationship.While I completely understand that the end is still new and the pain might still be raw, you appear to be doing better under the circumstances . Do not put yourself back in to an environment you should be grateful to be out of. Think long and hard on this one.
Is he really your bf? or his he imaginary? Okay come on! If you guys are going through a break up stop texting. Do it personally so you guys can look at each other and see what the other person is feeling. Texting is so impersonal how can you have a relationship through that. Your bf could have atleast been respectful enough to give a call. If your gonna break up do it in person, so atleast you can get over him and move on and stop wondering what all this texting means.
okay ill tell you this,
me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago,
he said he still wanted to be friends,
i said okay and then we barely ever talk,
i want to talk and hang out with him still,
but he just never seems to be interested, so part of
what you said is what im going through. i dont know about
the whole thing with him always being near you or his friends spying
on you, but the first part is normal i think
some times boys don t really kno wat there doing ....he probably does still like u and he wants 2 go out with you but just remember breaking up the second time is even harder and 10 times worse
He probably thinks that you're trying to get back together with him, and he doesn't want to.