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A classic self esteem activity is to take turns saying something nice about another person. So if you do it in a chain or circle, person #1 says something nice about person #2, #2 speaks to #3 and so on.

They may need help in coming up with things to say, and they may need to write things down (so you can double check what they are planning on saying).

Use the Twin Forces of Pain and Pleasure

Here’s the key to achieving your goal:

KNOW WHY YOU WANT THESE GOALS! PURPOSE IS STRONGER THAN OUTCOME! What’s way more important than the HOW we achieve our goal, is the reasons WHY. If you give yourself a compelling reason to achieve your goals, you’ll succeed.

All human beings are driven by 2 main forces:

- The need to avoid pain…

- …and The desire to gain pleasure.

In order to make something a MUST, we need to get leverage on ourselves. Leverage comes when we associate IMMEDIATE AND INTENSE PAIN with not doing/obtaining something, and we also associate IMMEDIATE AND IMMENSE PLEASURE with doing/getting it.

For every goal you set, list all the reasons why not achieving it would create PAIN in your life. Link massive and immediate pain to not achieving it. Similarly, list all the PLEASURE you would get from achieving your goal.

Link massive and immediate pleasure to achieving it!

This should be a critical part of your goal-setting. Deciding who you want to BE. You see, who you ARE is way more important than what you HAVE or what you are DOING. THE PERSON I WANT TO BE / MY CODE OF CONDUCT

Write down your own version of the list below. Who is your ideal self? Who were you born to be? Imagine they are writing your obituary – what would you like them to say about you?

• I am disciplined

• I possess total self-confidence and self-mastery

• I am patient and perseverant

• I am positive, enthusiastic, passionate, committed!

• I never speak negatively of anyone

• I always smile at everyone and I walk tall

• I take excellent care of my health

• I am direct, candid, straightforward

• I have no need for approval

• I am solution-oriented

• I never complain nor express anger

• I am a leader

• I never give up on my dreams

• I am brave and unreasonable

• I never procrastinate and instead do things NOW

• I accept full responsibility for my life

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