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Yeah, I don't think it should be either. My husband and I "lived in sin" for two years before we were married, according to his grandmother.

I never thought either one of us was that interesting though...

Maybe living in "shame on us"...

In the early times, no man nor parents of the man would consider marrying a woman who have sexual relationship whether it is with the man she going to marry or more so with another man.

More than just a taboo in the society or community it considered a woman to be cheap or worst among their gossiping neighbors.

Some claims it was part of the religious doctrines which became a way of life in the prudent society as a whole.Virginity before marriage is what an older society of men look for as their prized possession.

I do not think it is a sin.

I don't think it could possibly be a sin unless it is hurting someone, or is harmful to others. I personally do not live my life according to any Holy book... I have read the Bible and the Quran , and they are great... but I do not think that you have to listen to them literally to be a moral person.

if by "having sex outside marriage", you mean "cheating", then yes, it could be a sin... because it may hurt the person you are with. But if by that you mean, just having sex while you aren't married, as long as it feels right to you, and you feel ready, and it isn't harmful to anyone, then it could not possibly be a sin. God created man and woman so that they could love each other and have intimacy, it doesn't matter if you are married or not as long as both sides share this love and intimacy for each other. It is a beautiful thing that cannot be a sin!! :)

oh and not all sex leads to pregnancy, if you are responsible enough, you won't go around telling people not to have sex because it will "lead to pregnancy and OHNO! you will have little babies!" that's just so wrong and narrow minded... everyone knows about condoms, birth control, and all kinds of other ways that work, that will protect you from all kinds of STDs AND pregnancy. In today's world, we have every opportunity to enjoy life, without harming others, while protecting ourselves! there is no need to induce fear in others, no you will not have a baby if you have sex! just use a condom! :P

Because monotheistic religions are all about controlling people. Guilt is a powerful emotion. The sex drive is a powerful instinct. Combine the two -- make people feel guilty for expressing their biological programming -- and you have a very powerful way of subjugating people.

Christianity twisted and perverted the original concept of a handfasting -- a blessing conferred on a couple who already lived together, supposed to improve their chances of conception, and to last for "as long as love shall last between ye both" -- and turned it into marriage, a transfer of assets from the woman('s family) to the man('s family) and a limited licence to have sex, lasting "till death do you part".

It is a sin, not because God ever had anything to say on the subject being an absentee landlord, but because those stupid old men who were shackled with an ugly wife envied the hell out of men who were really men, those men who had a healthy libido and could get the chicks right and left. Men like Gene Simmons of KISS who admitted in his biography of having sex with at least 2000 women in his life. Or men like some of these porno stars who have had sex with thousands of beautiful women on film and FOR MONEY.

These Puritanical douches are full of envy and hatred esp. of the young, the beautiful and wealthy. If I cannot have a good sexlife myself, I can at least destroy yours. Hence the abominable concept of marriage was invented. Even worse, sex outside of this stupid human custom was considered a horrible sin, and in some cultures punished by death [if the perp was female at least].

So my argument boils down.

Those who have a crappy sex life or are stuck in a boring marriage with some ugly mate envy those who are young and beautiful and can have any man or woman just about that they like.

Therefore, sex outside of marriage is a sin.

To give it additional influence, these laws were given a Divine origin--a complete lie---so stupid dupes would be more likely to obey them.

The one true God, the God of Israel, gave us his word to show us the way to everlasting life. Who can escape death? God offers us that. In his word, that is the Bible, any sex outside of marriage was “sexually immoral.” It is strictly condoned. Sex is to procreate and for husbands and wives to enjoy each other. Read Songs of Solomon, 1 Corinthians 7, rather all of it. If you want to know why it is a sin, that idea is biblical and that is the only place where you will find the answer, not on yahoo. It is good that you are interested though. Doesn’t it seem weird that there are soooo many diseases from sex? It is a punishment.

Sex outside marriage is termed, in the Bible, adultery or fornication depending on the marital status of the participants. Both are destructive to the family, and the family is paramount in both Judaism and Christianity. Sometimes they are destructive to the health, physical and psychological, of the individual.

As a catholic I see it as Sin!

But I think you need to understand why it is.

God gives laws based on wisdom and righteousness, he gives them for our own good mostly.

Here's how I see this one! If you have sex outside of Marriage there is a good chance of pregnancy!(remember the pill is only around 50 years)

If you bring children into the world it is good to bring them into a stable loving home! (how many single parent's are there?)

Sex with different partners is dangerous as it is a way disease spreads.(56000 Americans each year contract Aids,68 million Americans have a form of STD)

From this alone you can see why God wants Sex to be between two people who know and Love each other and are ready to commit to a life long relationship.

You see it is not to make life hard for us, it is getting us to think about consequences and respecting our selves and others.

God's ways are always best when you understand his reasoning.

By the way there are 60 or so million Abortions every year, that's about one third of all pregnancies.

because....... before man knew what caused children, it didn't matter who fathered what child in the group... they all lived and worked, and prospered or died , together as a group..... when a man took a woman as 'his', then he worked very hard to provide for her and their children.... if they had two, then he worked pretty hard... if they had four, he worked harder.... but if he could tell that two of those children were not like him, then why was he working to provide for another man's offspring?.... that other man should be working to provide for them!!!.....not him!!!...... but he had no real way of being SURE that was or was not his child.... so the only way he could think of was to insure that the woman would not be anywhere NEAR another man in the way that made children.....it became a sin, punishable by death, to be with a man not your husband!!... JUST IN CASE a child may result that the man would have to provide for!.....

now, on the other hand, woman had no reason to be upset if the man made another woman pregnant.... SHE didn't have to carry that one!!!.... the only time the woman would be upset was if he left her and his children alone without providing for them..... but even if he did, she'd find a way, since so many of them died in war or out hunting..

still, the fear that a man would have to provide for a child that was NOT his, is the whole basis of this 'adultery' thing.....sad, isn't it?.... that 'primitive' tribe that believes that 'it takes a village to raise a child" seems to have it right, eh?....(atheist)

Things that are sins make life more complicated and miserable than it has to be.

Think: if you have sex and your not married, you have to worry about AIDS and other diseases your partner might have ( and not have told you), taking birth control, getting pregnant, etc.

Here are someother sins and their consequences:

Praying to an idol: it never answers your prayers

Lying: you get caught, you have to worry about being caught

Being Jealous: You aren't happy with what you have

Killing someone: obvious consequences:guilt, etc.

So having premarital sex is a sin for our own good.God only wants the best for us:we just have to realize it.

Yes, "Cause God says" IS a reason. He created you. He gets to make the rules.

Sex outside of marriage is a clear sin in the word of God, don't be fooled.

God didn't make you to be a tramp.

Sex is the physical expression of a spiritual relationship a husband has with his wife. No less.