2,000 dresses really? Does one person need enough to clothe an army? Tell her you want her to pick HALF of those dresses to resell. Ask her to hold a big auction of last season items, do something. Get her a counselor if need be, someone to push her to do this stuff. Or take her to a 3rd world country to see people who live in mud huts. In this economy that kind of greed is almost a sin. You need some money in the bank for an emergency and she needs to be told NO.

This is a cut and past from a website I looked up.. This may help;

Have you sat down and spoken with your wife about how much she is spending and what it is doing to your shared financial situation? If the answer is no, give it a try.

I mention sitting down, because I can still recall my dad waving bills in the air while standing in front of the heap of papers he kept on the dining room table and admonishing each of us as we walked into and out of the room about our unbridled spending. It was not as effective as he would have liked. So, as a starting point, sit down together. My experience tells me that if you aren't in sync on spending, poor communication may be at the root of the problem.

Below are some suggestions to be used in conjunction with a sit-down with the wife that may help address your financial concerns.

7 steps to protect yourself from an overspending spouse:

1. Talk about money before you get married! That was unfair wasn't it? Sorry, I couldn't resist.

2. Check to see if you are in a community property state. There are nine of them (Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin). Also, Puerto Rico has community property and in Alaska, the land of individual choice, it's optional. If you live in one of these states, your options are more limited. Her debts are your debts if they were incurred after the marriage. If the sit-down discussion doesn't work, see a credit counselor. If that fails, see a lawyer.

3. Get a copy of all three of your credit reports to assure that you have all the information. Your spouse could have credit accounts of which you are not aware.

4. Send a letter to all joint credit card issuers requesting that the cards be closed to any new activity. Be sure to let your spouse know in advance that you intend to do this or you may worsen your situation. Stopping new charges rather than closing the accounts will help protect your credit record -- you will not lose credit score points, which you would if you were to close long-standing accounts.

5. Remove your spouse's name from any accounts where you are the cardholder and she is an authorized user.

6. Open your own checking account if you currently have only a joint checking account and deposit your income in that account. If your wife has to ask you for money instead of just writing a check, it will give you an opportunity to talk.

7. To legally and more completely separate your finances, you will need to contact an attorney to learn your particular rights in your state.

Now that you feel more protected from your spouse's spending, you will need to begin to think about how you and your spouse can stay married and not have money come between you. Try to set some joint financial goals and agree on how you will reach them. Sometimes having an appealing goal will help a spender rein in the spending and save for the goal.

Cut her off and tell her to get a job.