I'm a male I haven't even done anything sexual w/ a guy until yesterday when I met this guy I met on this website. His profile says he's safe only, doesn't do raw, and was tested negative within the last month. We just kissed, did BJs, and he fingered me. There was absolutely no *** from either of us but I'm still freaking out over it. I know the chance that I have it from this alone is almost non-existent but I'm paranoid. All of the uncles on my mom's side of the family have died of AIDS which is probably the cause of my irrational fear. I would get tested but they said tests should only be taken after at least 3 months of sex. My question is, what is the likelyhood that I could've gotten it? I'm sure its small, but this is mostly to put me at ease above anything else.
Update:The censored word is semen
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you cannot get an HIV infection from this, there was absolutely no contact with the semen or blood, so i would say no you are not infected.
Nothing anyone can say will help you feel better. Time is the only thing that can take away this anxiety. I had the same anxiety from working in a hospital setting, which is ridiculous. I just could not stop thinking about it, and it even got to the point where I was fully convinced I had it, and would tear up every time I even thought about it. I ended up having to get tested in order to get life insurance, and it came out negative. It was the biggest relief I have ever experienced, and I felt like an idiot for not getting tested sooner, just to easy my mind. The only thing you can do is wait the few months and get tested. I would say you are fine, and you're probably 99.9% safe. I understand your fear, and you're not the only one to worry about this...just try to find peace and get tested when you can.
Honestly, I believe you should get tested. Having sexual intercourse or not, you could still get a AIDs because of the ******** part. Most STDs, pregnancies, and so on happen because of the pre-*** we let off, not because of the *** itself: thats why the "pull-out method" never works. Now, I will admit that I have had sex with another guy as well, and I have also freaked out about the samething myselg: and I am only stating this to show that youre not the only one out there that has had the feeling you are having.
Umm...sometimes, it takes up to 6 months for HIV to develop and show on screening, that's why some people get tested every six months (or sometimes more often). And regardless of whether your buddy is safe or not, condoms aren't always completely effective, do get tested. Just to know your status an to be sure