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You have answered your own question. Talk to him like he's crazy, belittle him, don't respect his feelings and don't trust him. Then you said "You don't respect his feelings."

Why are you with him? He is a human just like you. If you can't treat someone with love and respect, then dehumanize them. Sounds like you have issues and should seek professional help.

To a point I can relate to you. I've been in a r/s for almost 3 years. We had problems at the beginning because he would feel like I was belittling him and I just felt like he was being a p***y/pushover/wimp. I'm a kind of a down-to-earth/keep it real kinda girl. We argued a LOT...well...looking back I know what the real problem was:

I needed to feel secure in our relationship. I wanted to feel like he wasn't going to change on me...or do me wrong in any kind of way. It wasn't just me. He needed to not be so serious all the time. To relax and to also feel that security. Basically...he needed to MAN-UP. Because I when we got together we was like boy/girl and now we are man/woman.

Since we got over that we haven't had any problems. I know we are in different situations but I want you to ask yourself. "Why am I in this relationship?" Maybe you are better off being single but dating vs being in an actual relationship. You really need to think about what you are doing. Seems like you've been hurt in the past because you think men don't have feelings. Humans have feelings. Even animals have feelings.

Maybe you should just move on now. If there isn't any trust. There isn't a relationship.

ages: him 22 & me 20

@ David - hey yea its considered a bigger crime if man hits woman because they're, as a whole, stronger. So women, it's in our best interest not to physically fight with men no matter what level of equality you think you've reached with them. that doesn't mean to avoid fully voicing yourself - line between subservience and common sense its not that hard. If your man partner has high temper, wants to head everything, etc it increases the limiting factors for you cuz you'll probly be more scared (so don't go off with someone who thinks he's the king of the world, unless you think you are too). The only difference is strength and how the majority of ppl are still in the traditional way of expecting men to hold more power, giving them more responsibility. So, for men the limiting force has to be greater, and is and must be the law. At college there's always men around to open the door for you :) I was feeling like why're you being so nice to me and pampered for no reason. LOL But it was appreciatively funny when some boys rushed to the door when they noticed I was holding it for them and 'took over' it. I could feel the thought process in their minds. I hurry when someone's holding the door for me too but the slight differences is since males aren't used to it* that much. *It-whatever 'it' may be. About the dating thing, just because of the mere fact that it's 'dating', I think the bill should be given by whoever takes you out, whether it's a man or woman (women?-I don't think everyone's ready for that sweet stage yet). You don't want the date or sense of equality to be void of love, generousness, kindness, understanding, etc. This is all especially true if in your country the two sexes were raised equally. Otherwise it's less applicable no matter how much we try to change older generations/ppl (-they weren't treated fairly from the beginning and it creates tension). Like who's going to make up for all the life-long 'conditioning/training' they've been put through to excel at? Back to the stuff in the question - not doing them is immature (both for women and men in the 'men's list' not listed)

Of course men have feelings. In fact lack of emotional fullfilment is a main reason that guys break off relationships or cheat. They may not know how to express their needs as well as you, but they have them. They need to feel needed and important to you. They need to know you value their opinion and be complimented for their good qualities. They may not want to hear that they look good in their jeans, but they want to know that you admire their ability to make decisions or manage money for example. Your guy is right, change your ways or lose him.

Respect his opinion, dont make comments such as "thats a stupid idea" or dismiss him "whatever". Just make sure you think before you speak. sometimes honesty is a little too brutal

well if you want things to work you need to start listening to him and trusting him or else he might just find someone who values his time a little more

well it's good that you realize you do that....

just try to consider his feelings,

because now you know he has them.

bjs

i dont know how to answer you