Hi :)
im 19 yrs old. a girl.
generally i am pretty, i know cus people tell me often. but i have no self esteem, and it's worst thing ever.
i do not think nice of me, i have hight standards and i want smaller face than i already have. :( so i am really unsecure about my face, and sometimes i can't even stand looking someone in eyes because i think all they see are my imperfestions. i aviod eye contatcs big time!
2nd, i spend to much time at mirror watching myself and fixing up. so when im walking towards my crush i feel uglier than ever. i just do not feel pretty. and most of times, when you don't feel pretty, people can see it, and you really start looking ugly.
i keep comparing myself to others. i think everyone else i prettier than me.
should i mention i never had boyfriend? tho i have to turn down LOTS of boys. i never let anyone into my "safe zone"
but most important of all, how can i be confident and pretty all day long? i need to learn this guys, please help me some how!
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Well, for self esteem you should NOT look in the mirror, the true beauty isn't on your out ward appearance. (say the girl who keeps her hair purple because people say they love my hair.)
If everyone looked at themselves like that, we all find flaws. I have a strange set of scars across my eye and never got in an accident to cause them. I could say I think if they were gone I'd look nice. Or the tiny blemish I get on my nose is terrible. These superficial things just don't matter! When they do and people get plastic surgery to fix it, they look very plastic like a Barbie doll. Then they age weird.
You were made YOU for a reason. Only YOU are able to do what it is you have to do. You need a real mirror and that's your friends eyes. If they tell you they love some superficial thing as pretty, just thank them and move on!
I'm no prize, I get low self esteem too. I'm allergic to most makeup so I tend not to wear it unless I'm going somewhere "nice". If looks were all I had I'd be in real trouble, but it's not. I'm pretty creative and like how I can think outside the box to solve problems. I got my gifts that my close friends see in me that is pretty awesome.
Face a fear you have, stop looking in the mirror and go about life looking for what is really good about you. Your self esteem will return and yes sometimes it will fade, but this is a normal part of life. I know your special, no one knows what you think is wrong with you so start living life before it's too late!