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hi louise,

Well its not your clothes that is to blame, since you say you feel uncomfortable regardless of what you are wearing.

So please continue to dress well whenever you go out as it makes you look presentable and approachable.

What you have to work on is your ability to handle social situations better.

You have to work on your self confidence and your ability to make meaningful conversation.

To do that firstly take pride in yourself, your looks,your talents and your job and secondly read and increase your awareness of the world and different topics so you have a lot to talk about with different people.

And don't forget to listen, very important too.

You say you attract attention when you look nice so thats not a problem area for you so work on how you will handle that attention and always look your best, you will feel good about yourself every time you step out.

best of luck!

Alright. I can definitely relate.

I think you should stop dressing for others but for yourself. Showing too much makes me uncomfortable because I'm not used to it (Even if I do look amazing). You have to find something comfortable yet pretty to wear. A favorite item, if you will.

You know yourself better than any one else and you know that you are amazing on the inside. Find a way to let that out without being vain and thinking too much about what you wear. Let your personality be out there, it's all good when you concentrate on making better conversations and entertaining people. Make them laugh and know you're great and it won't even matter what you wear.

Hope that helps, it helps me :)

Maybe try a mix of both. Dress to fit your personal style, dont just dress to impress...if a guy likes an outfit, great!! but if he doesnt comment on it, oh well. Dress how you want and if somebody doesnt like it, then thats their problem, not yours.

-hope this helped!!

Be yourself. Never dress to impress. Don't dress casual because you dont know what to wear. Wear something comfortable thats your style. guys love it when your being yourself.

don't dress to attract guys because the guys you attract will only like you for your looks. seriously. don't wear clothes that make you feel uncomfortable either because then you will lack confidence. If you feel comfortable in your clothes you shouldnt feel uncomforatble because you don't want a guy who wants you for your looks, trust me. Just wear what you like and you WILL find someone, i know you will. There is someone out there for all of us it is just a matter of time before we find them.

I have dressed to impress and attract guys then im like wow they only like me because of how i look. that sucks because i am smart, i want someone who likes me because i am smart and talented. So i ahve come to terms with the fact i dont have a boyfriend right now. its ok to be yourself... really. I knwo i will find someone because there are millions of smart people out there.. and in the short time ive been alive i have not met even close to the number i will in my lifetime.

Be patient, dress how you like and it will give you confidence. men like a girl with confidence. they can sense it and they like it. if you arent confident they will try to compliment you and make you confident so you think you "owe" them or because they make you feel good about yourself. but those arent the guys you want. you want a guy who you feel confident around and who you can be yourself around. and yeah, you might ahve to wait to find him. but, when you do i KNOW it willl be worth the wait because he wil make you so happy and you will feel good.

hope this helps!!

I reccomend a therapist, because you should really talk back and forth with someone about this, that way you can figure it out yourself.

Here, this is my mothers website for her mag, she's also a therapist, if you live in CT look her up- she's really good. Sessions are like $110 per hour.

http://anopendoor.com/

dont worry about other people

if guys look at you then be flattered not flushed