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pull you head out of your a.s.s ...........you need to straighten up show some respect in return your dad will come back around but it is up to you at this point,

You've asked for help. That puts you ahead of the game. Off hand I would say, your parents are the ones who need help.

OK-so you got into trouble. I dont know many teens that havent. You've come up with the idea of going fishing with your dad. Maybe you could use that time to let him know exactly how you feel. You love him and really need his support now. Maybe take your mom out to lunch and have the same talk with her. I'd recommend having the talk with both of them together, but in my experience, that doesnt work too well.Show them in every way that you can, that you know you've been in trouble before, but you're trying to change. You need their help more than ever now.

I can tell by the way you put together your question that you will never be a failure in life. Stop telling yourself that. Thank goodness you have your gf to bolster you up. There will be a lot of people out there who will see your potential. First, look in the mirror and tell yourself you're a worthwhile person, because you are.

Your dad even shows up at your games? Lucky you - with a history in the recent past of getting arrested twice, I can tell you that you are breaking the hearts of your parents. You say you were in the wrong place at the wrong time, etc. Well, that's your story and you're sticking to it but to a parent who sees a child arrested, those arrests are very real, impossible to ignore.

D's and F's and C's on your report card mean that you're not likely to be able to play sports in high school - there are academic requirements for that. You're basically your own worst enemy - telling yourself a lot of excuses for everything.

For example, those grades aren't that bad (yes, they are), it's the bad crowd you're involved with (who forced you to hang with them and where did they go now - still lurking in your background?), they think you don't try but you do (you aren't sitting down and working your butt off every single night to prove you can be a great student now, are you?). You've given yourself a free pass on almost everything and neglected to tell why you so unfairly got arrested - twice!

At the end of the school day, sit at the table, turn off your computer with video games, knock yourself out, impress your parents and you will be rewarded for being the kid who proved everyone was wrong about him! Sure, everyone who knows you were arrested and you screw up on your school work thinks your a loser - and who would those people be? Just everyone who ever asks how you are doing and your parents feel compelled to either lie about you or tell the awful truth.

You are simply out to lunch thinking you can go fishing with someone and fix that whole 'loser son' problem you've got going for you there. You feel kinda sad and depressed - do something about it by getting good grades. You will notice that things start looking up once you prove you've got a brain. You've screwed up in so many ways already that you really do have to prove you're not a total loser - and believe me, your parents are pulling for you in this, they want you to succeed.

They do know that you are the only person who can get up off your butt and change those loser habits, though.

So do it. Screw the fishing story you're building up in your own head. Yes, fishing is pleasant but it won't straighten out the train wreck that your life is becoming.

Hey mate.

I am sorry to hear you are going throug such troublesome times.

Maybe it would be a good idea to go fishing with your dad or anything you both enjoy.

Letting someone know you love them is as simple as telling them so and giving them lots of cuddles. Listening to what they have to say. Make sure your thanking your girlfriend for all the help and support she is giving you too.

You should ask him seriously why he isn't attending your baseball matches as much as he used to, he might have a good reason.

As for the 'failing in life part', the reason may be that you have a negative approach to it. But I'm not saying you do. Tell your parents you need their help, because you do, every son or daughter needs the help of their parents in every aspect of life they need it, for as long as they need it.

Good luck, all it may take is a conversation with your parents, letting them know how you feel.

I am a parent and from a parents point of view, you are a slap in the face. If you loved your parents and respected them and realize that all they want is for you to be a respectable member of society, then you would not do the stupid things you are doing. You are using your "wrong crowd" of friends as an excuse. You are the problem, not your friends. You are not trying in school. C's, D's, and F's are not grades that reflect any kind of effort on your part. Grow up and show your parents that you respect them and want their love. Lose your friends, try harder in school, stay out of jail, and tell your parents your sorry for the ways you have hurt them and tell them you want to change. Not only for you, but for them too and they will come around.

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wow it is difficult to be young it always has been, unfortunately it is in my opinion even harder now than up till the first half of last century. Just remember it is just as hard to be a parent today. It is certain your parents love you, it jus seem as time passes we seem to loose the art of knowing how to love. An I think maybe you need to one realize it is easier for you to change things your father may consider to be misbehavior than for him to change his views. How ever if you really want to go fishing with him, start leaving little hints be creative leave a Bobine in his shoes one time an then leave a jar of bait on his pillow, fishing line an a package of hooks in front of the coffee pot have everything you need already in the car put his pole in the front between where both passengers sit an tape a note to the windshield saying something like "Hey dad ..... you......me ....... fishing ......how bout it dad?" Love Me

Now your making me sad.

Listen I understand how hard it is to be your age and what it is to be a parent, and considering what has been going on at your house lately, I'm sure they they are at a loss too.

If you are truly wanting to reach out to them and improve your relationship, talk to them. Stick around home for a while, be available to them. I myself have a hard time expressing how I feel. Maybe it would be better if you write them a letter and express yourself that way, and follow through with being more responsible for your own actions. No matter what your children do,remember they will always love you.

your parents are hurting because they've always wanted the best for you...they are dissappointed right now. you need to talk to them and ask them how you can make things better with them. let them know what goals you have for yourself. and ask them if they can help you with your school work. once they see that you are truly motivated and trying hard they will come back around. but you have to let them know exactly what they say that brings you down. sometimes they say things they think will make you try harder...but it backfires. if you don't tell them, they'll never know. my final advice...ditch the wrong crowd..pray..God can always help..you may not see exactly what you want...but he's there!! i hope this helps you.. you can do this!!

Tell them that talking down at you isn't going to help. For getting arrested, stay away from that crowd and don't do anything that will lead you to the slammer. As for your grades, go see a tutor and have your parents sit down and help you with your homework. It's never bad to ask for help.

talk to them, buy your dad and you baseball tickets, or something that you can do together, stop doing stupid stuff. be a kid, have fun. when you and your dad are at home ask if he wants to throw the ball around. go fishing, start building a car together, do something that keeps you from doing stupid things