i am in this amazing relationship with a wonderful girl. wev been seeing each other for 7 months.. dating for 4. we both met through a friend and got talking as she was having relationship problems at the time and so was i. we got chatting and got on really well. then 2 months later we started seeing each other (as friends) . things where fantastic. and still are. the only problem is, our past. she was raped at the age of 14 and 15. by two different boys. they used her when she thought they liked her. i cant let it go! knowing that she was treated like **** in the past make me feel so angrey! i know who the boys where aswell! another thing is that she is like such a hit with most boys. all the boys fancey her etc, always texting, emailing, etc, and it didnt bother me at first. but when i notice that she once was seeing one off these boys 10months ago alarm bells start ringing. this boy doesnt leave her alone. hes always asking her to meet him. they chat all the time and he really likes her. shes told me she doesnt like him and she wants to be with me. shes addament that im the only one for her, and i believe her when she says that. wer only 17 and shes already saying she wants a future together. its such a lovely feeling when she says that and i know that she means it. she says im the best thing that has ever happend to her etc. shes the best thing that has ever happened to me to be honest.shes always telling me she loves me etc and that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. i can honestly see it happening to be honest as wer perfect for each other. but iv had girls say things like that to me in the past... how do i bring myself round to think that this girl could indeed be the one? she promises me that she will never leave me and im the only boy for her? im just so worried im going to loose her. how can i tell that shes telling the truth? i dont want to be hurt AGAIN!! ( my past is pretty **** too ) please help!
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You sound very respectful of her choices to continue chatting with him even though it bothers you. That's a great start. I'd wait, take things slow and see if their closeness fades out and your relationship grows. You two may have different values that can change or not change. I personally feel there are boundaries needed if you eventually decide to commit to each other for life, as she says she wants to do. You need to get to know her values, where each one of you can compromise and where you can not or will not. This takes much communication. Best to you both. Nani