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Let us know if you are 12 or 17 or somewhere in between it will help us give better answers.

Ha, sounds like lots of parents. I know, my mom yells at me for just wearing short shorts, for crying out loud. Just wait until you're liberated from your parents at 18. They can't judge you when you're on a campus miles away.

But if you want an actual answer, they criticize you because they don't want you to turn into a insert-all-synonyms-for-white-trash-here. I think people tend to forget that looks don't always match attitude. My best friend dresses similarly to you, but she's one of the sweetest, most honest people I know, and looking at me, you'd never guess we were friends (I'm of the average Asian girl appearance). At the same time, I have a friend who's into theater and is obsessed with organizing his wardrobe by color, but he's not gay; he has a girlfriend, in fact. The point is, as long as you're not acting the way your parents think you are, they're in the wrong.

Um...I hope you at least dress a little more "properly" (what your parents would consider proper) when they have people around that they want to have a good impression on. Cases like when your dad's boss comes for dinner or the family's celebrating New Year or something. Respect your parents' wishes in that case.

First off I want to say I am very sorry that your parents speak to you in such a manner. I went through the EXACT same thing as you are going through at the moment. When I was beginning to express myself through my style my parents went crazy. Saying I looked like an idiot dressing the way I do etc. The thing is that humans don't like change. When they see that you are doing something different they become skeptical. They feel like they have a loss of control, like you are becoming someone different and they will feel like they don't know you. But don't worry the best thing to do for me was understanding why they felt that way and not be bratty about it. Instead of saying things like "what ever" or "I don't care", I would try to tell them that I was just expressing myself and most of the time I would say "I'm sorry we don't like the same things but I'm happy dressing this way, i really like it" in a respectful tone. When my parents said "ew change your clothes" or "you look hideous" or "why cant you be a normal child?" it really hurt but I would always tell myself "it because they aren't used to seeing me or anyone this way".

My parents are both of Mexican decent so they are VERY traditional. Sometimes i would change something small like my earrings or take the polish off my nails so they would cheer up a little and shut the heck up! haha. Don't worry your parents are going to love you no matter what so if they say mean hurtful things shake it off and pretend it doesn't bother you. Sometimes acting like something doesn't bother you can really help you cope and eventually it won't. At least that is what worked for me, I hope this helped you at least a tiny bit and I hope there are better answers to come from more knowledgeable people. The best of luck and always be yourself.

-much love Celest.

P.S. My parents were always the ones to buy my clothes so when they bought the certain clothes i picked out i would thank them very much and tell them how happy I was. I think the fact that they could help me be so happy and excited actually made them feel happy. So if they are the ones providing clothing maybe you could try being overly thankful and say "thanks mom/dad when you help me with my clothes you really make me feel loved". Also, I saw a big dramatic turn when once I asked my dad "do you like these shoes?" he said "No, I don't, you look like a homeless person", (an obvious exaggeration) I was like oh okay but later on i went over to him and said "thank you for your opinion dad, I like to know what you're thinking when you look at me". I think that made him think about what he said and a couple times after that he just slowly let me begin to express myself freely.

:) Okay, I'm done now :)

Best wishes!!

Well thats parenting for you right there!! They think they know best even when not. But since you represent them they dont want you to embarrass themm.

Do what they say as long as you live under their roof you don't hava a choice.

Couple more years and you will leave them and you can be naked if you'd like