here is the deal for those of you who thinks that i am just trying to snatch my son from his dad. i have tried everything in the book when it comes to talking to this man as far as me getting more support from him. he always curse me out and then hangs up the phone on me. he only sees him on the weekends but thats because when i was letting my son go over there during the week, he would come home late and none of his homework would be done, so i had to cut out the weekdays. when i really need the support and help, he doesn't come through. he does it when he wants too and only when its convenient for him. but my son thinks he can do no wrong. i mean i cant even get the man to take his son to school without him saying he aint got gas but i ride home and see that his car is not in the driveway at his house. this is what i have to deal with and on top of that he thinks hes a great father. if i move, my brother said he will help me and he is a positive influence that my son needes to see.
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Just wanted to express my support. Some men can be really (from lack of other words) weired. Its his own kid. Good thing he is an ex. Regarding the move, if you think it is good for the kid, go for it. Who cares what others think. You can always claim it is for a number of years until you get back on your feet, then you'll be back. There is probably a great deal of details behind your statement of not getting child support, so I will not add on the subject. Just be happy that that men is out of your life. When I was in my 20's I used to meet men that were cruel, so I didn't want to get married. Then I met a good man who is a good father also, and I got married. Keep in mind that it takes time, and there is hope.
Dont let your son hear you talk about money. It will crush his self esteem. Child support is just that, money to support a child. It is not payments to you so he can see his son. Taking him from his dad is cruel. you two have control issues to resolve between yourselves and not by involving your son. You need to be a good role model too. My ex NEVER paid support and barely saw my kids. I never said an unkind word about him. I worked hard to make ends meet. As a result, I raised two compassionate kids who are fiscally responsible. You can give the same gift to your son.
honey I'm kinda going through the same thing. if its better for ur son to be around ur brother then i say do it. ur son will be mad at u for a while I'm sure but do what is best for him. think the long run which would be better.a boy needs a father figure in his life one who will teach him how to be a real man. i wish u all the best Hun. i hope everything works out for u always!!!
you sound like a good mom don't worry about what others think that's your son and you are only looking out for him his dad sounds like he has no time for his son ,you have my vote-good luck to you and your son .
go see a lawyer and get child support
Please seek an attorney.