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I think that'd be a great way to word it! Whenever I'm planning a party I also have the problem of people not choosing to RSVP. I think that's a *kind* way to get people to RSVP. Great idea :)

It sounds a little too tough, as if you're saying none of the people invited can be trusted to rsvp. Besides, if any of them know each other, they'll pass the word around about the location, and you won't get an accurate count anyway.

The standard way to handle such situations is to have the invitations say,

"Here's an invitation for [Child's name] to Danny Smith's 6th birthday party.

Date:

Time:

Location and address:

Please reply before [date one week before the party] to [phone number] or [email address]."

Then you keep track of who has replied, and call the procrastinators on the phone five days before the party for their answer. If they still dither, tell them you have to give a head count to the party place, and you'll need to have their reply by that same evening. If you don't hear back, cross them off the list.

Now what, if their kid shows up at the party anyway? I think you can arrange with the party place to be prepared for two or three extras, if need be. You can bet that the kid whose mom delayed her reply will be the first to be dropped off at the party!

This same situation comes up again and again with wedding receptions. One bride posted to say that their reception was going to be held at a private estate, and the guest count would have to be exact. She would do all she could to get commitments from the invitees, but what should she do if Uncle Mort and Aunt Susie, who hadn't rsvp'd, show up with their two little girls, who hadn't even been invited?

The consensus was that she should have someone from the wedding party on patrol at the door with the official guest list. If they aren't on it, the extra folks should be invited to wait in the lobby, and courteously told that if by some chance four people who were expected do not show up, they could take their places. Otherwise, too bad, you really should have replied that you were coming!

Sound good. Thats what I am planning to do next year! I invited 50 people (my husband has a huge family) and heard back from 8 people (then some who were coming and didn't show up and lots that just showed up). It is annoying, how hard is it to make a 2 minute phone call!

I would just change the last part from "for location of the party" to "for location and directions." I would change the header from " You are invited to Danny's 6th Bday party" to something a little more fun relating to what you're doing at the party. You don't want to put people off.

Nah - you have to give the details, it sounds wierd if you don't. If you don't have a response. just go to the parents of the child and ask if they got the invite - have a couple of spare ones in your pocket just in case - sometimes they dont' make it out of the classroom drawer :-)

You can add on the invite that you need to know by a certain date in order to make a booking at wherever it is, and then check 2 or 3 days beforehand.

nicely, considering the fact that i've got faith that dying is a initiating and not an end, i think of that's a great thought. Funerals are certainly for the living, besides; we mourn them because of the fact we will omit them. If it replaced right into a stable individual, they are going to Heaven, so i think of it is going to constantly be a party--except you're rather effective they are going to Hell.

When I saw the heading, I thought - getting them back from invitees or RSVP'ing myself? And honestly, my answer would be YES, and YES. ARGGHHH! I cause lots of aggravation, and will burn in hell for yet another faux pas! (If it is any consolation, I go white and get weak knees when I realize my stupid oversight - I need a secretary for my life to keep me on track. Isn't wives that are supposed to do that - I guess I need a wife that pays attention to details. There is none in our family.

if people dont rsvp then you politely call them and say "hi, i just wanted to make sure we had enough food for all the guests, and i noticed we hadn't received your rsvp yet. i was wondering if _______ would be coming to the party or not?"

It sounds weird and odd, like it's top secret. I wouldn't do that. Just call people who haven't responded.

It's a little confusing