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so because you don't have the experience he has you don't think the relationship will work out? why can't you just be with him and offer him your love, trust and respect? leaving someone because they're more experienced than you is just stupid.

What does it matter that she was a white girl? What more do they have to offer? You have a lot more to offer than having a child and if he doesn't see it that way than you need to find someone who will. I am a white male and I've dated a lot of white females, no black girls yet but I'm from Maine and there is around 1 black person to every 50 white people. A woman is a woman in my opinion despite my lack of experience with black females. If he is with you there is probably a reason. Just be caring and understanding. Males don't receive very much of that and appreciate it immensely when they can find someone who will empathize and understand even though they may feel like they have to act emotionless. We are all emotional beings, don't force him to show it but when he does, be understanding. That's one of the greatest things you can offer. Also, guys really appreciate a woman who takes care of herself. A fit girl will always have guys looking and if you're fit your boyfriend won't get bored in the bedroom. This is very important to a man. If you're not fit right now, that's ok, just make an effort to run and exercise and he'll appreciate this because it will let him know you care what he thinks.

Just because your black doesn't mean that your not as good as or even better than a girl with white skin. It sounds like this guy has yes had a lot of ventures and relationships with white women but guess what your just as good enough for him to have other firsts and a good relationship with you too. Keep your head up and communicate with him, maybe if you tell him how you feel he'll try harder to make you feel unique and good enough. Good luck. Your awesome. Hope this helps.

Are you saying you feel self-conscious about the fact that all his previous relationships have been with Caucasian women and you don't fall in to that category?

You as a person have a lot to offer anyone in a relationship, just as they can offer a lot to you. Don't change or try to be someone different for the sake of a relationship. Be yourself, be confident and believe in yourself.

By what you just said, you are unique. Most people like your BF build quite a history, but you haven't. That says that you don't fall for guys that easily because you want the right person (or you chose not to for other reasons). That's a good thing. You're just like me. In fact, check this out: I'm 27 and kissed only one girl. Why? because I chose to do so.

Besides, you'll probably feel this way no matter who you're with..so if you're happy with the guy, stay with him. It's all about doing what YOU want to do, not what society tells you.

I don't know if your reading to be in a relationship if you don't value yourself.

Do you really believe that all your good for is "besides having a child, what do I have to offer?" If so, then I suggest you take a step back and stop degrading yourself.

You have the world to offer. How about your MIND? Your love and personality? YOU ARE UNIQUE. You are You. And no one else will ever be you. You have your own values, ideas, morals, etc. Value yourself and others will value you too.

You're contradicting yourself in a way. If all his past lovers were white, and you are the only african american. You are the UNIQUE one! With that aside, race has NOTHING to do with a relationship. If you love your partner, you'll talk to him. He has been with you for a year because he CLEARLY wants to be. Guys tend to avoid unnecessary, long relationships. He isn't using you, because every girl in the world can give him what you are. So he obviously loves you if he wants to be committed and in a relationship. You're over thinking the situation. Relax, you're with the guy and he sees something in YOU and not those girls. You're color makes you who you are; and he is with you for you.

You are a very special person and a lot of good qualities to offer any boy! Don't put yourself down! Stand tall!

Maybe you're not picking the right type of boyfriend!

I sure you have lots to offer in any relationship ... but it does sound as though you are not very comfortable in this particular relationship, and may always be looking over your shoulder for trouble. My advice is to let it go and wait for a relationship with someone with whom you are comfortable, and someone who is as terrific as you are!!

you sound intelligent enough, so that's already more than a lot of girls i've known have.

i'm sure you're capable of holding a good job.

if you've been together for that long, the guy is clearly into you..i mean..i'd say he loves you. don't worry. it sounds like you have a good thing going, don't jinx it. confidence confidence