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I am sure you are a beautiful girl. Don't be so hard on yourself..many people have minor imperfections like yourself..I have big ears and boys still like me. Maybe the reason you aren't getting the right kind of boy attention is because the attitude you are projecting. I assume you are pretty shy and keep to yourself..and it's okay to be yourself! Have fun in your skin..you are going to have this body forever whether you like it or not..might as well get use to it.

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I wish you all the luck!!

Your feelings are coming from an inner source of insecurity. Yes, the teenage stage of life is a time that is very hard on everyone. Your young and have not discovered your sense of self yet, nor have you discovered your strong attributes and abilities. Feelings of insecurity develop when you long for something that you do not know how to obtain, which in turn generates feelings of frustration. This frustration is interpreted by you as being negative-or unworthy.

Your at the stage in your life where there is a strong emphasis on looks. It seems like all the good looking cheerleaders and varsity quarterbacks have no trouble getting dates with who they want. Well, you are not alone I can assure. Ask any adult if they have ever felt alone during their teenage years, and the answer will be yes 100% of the time.

To answer your question of how people get through this difficult stage is very simple: your mindset matters most. The right positive mindset will lead you not only through high school, but the rest of your life. Instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out your flaws, point out the things about your body and personality that you love. Embrace your unique characteristics and never be afraid to express them. You have to love yourself before someone else will love you. Go up to people and introduce yourself. Listen to what they have to say and the things you all may have in common. Express to them what you enjoy doing and talking about. Relationships have to develop-not spark. Don't go to school and expect to find your best friend in one day. Just associate with the people that make you feel special and respect your uniqueness. But don't be someone your not because you can't always be acting. Hope this helps!

Listen:

People's bodies change throughout their life...you might think you're an ugly duckling now, and you may turn into a swan...also the old cliche about its whats inside that counts is very very true...

If you had a boyfriend that only cared about your looks that wouldn't be good either.

If there are areas that you need to improve on, then by all means do what you can (lose weight or buy cuter clothes or whatever...) but always remember that it's your personality and spirit that are the most important.

Take it from a guy that has dated alot of women...(not bragging), I always liked the women with the best heart and personality the most....

Feeling attractive comes with experience and some degree of successes. At 16, I bet you haven't had time to accomplish much. Just getting through school is a huge challenge. To spice up your life, join a club or gathering of like-minded people. Here's my little "trick"... believe that most 16 yr olds are self concious and are not that different than you. Everyone has an insecurity. So...try this...ACT like each person you come in contact with, is your friend...and treat them like they are your best bud. Looks aren't what makes a person attractive. Confidence is much more important. If you lack it...try building up someone weaker than yourself. It really works!

You have to love yourself before you can even think about someone liking you.Love yourself you will never have a relationship if you don't have love within.And you don't need a boyfriend to be happy.You need confidence to be happy.No guy wants a girl who has a low self esteem.It also sounds like your friends aren't real friends.Real friends don't talk s**t behind your back.I am serious when I say you have to love yourself before a guy will.

Well as for the boyfriend thing...don't worry about that. It will happen in time. As far as your looks...you need to get comfortable with them. Learn to love your flaws. I have a forehead thats damn near tyra banks type but I have learned to make it work. I would suggest to boost your self esteem try joining a club, sport, something that you are good at.

Forget self-esteem, just accept what you are, be it evil or good. Lying to yourself is a temporary band aid and will make things worse in the end. My suggestion is to get eternal life and peace, everything else good will follow once you have those things. Check out the link in my profile to find out how.

Just wake up every morning saying all the things you like about yourself over and over. You will start to see the list grow, don't just say physical things, but emotions, intelligence, ambitions. Say this to yourself whenever you're feeling down and you won't be able to think about what you don't like about yourself and that will all eventually fade away, or you will never be truly happy.

you gotta love yourself first! i'd say that you should go get your nails done, go to the gym, get all dolled up, or anything fun just to go out and have some fun! and if people are talking about you just think of it this way ... you're practically famous! i think you should get together some of the girls and go have some fun and work on loving yourself more instead of feeling the need to have a boyfriend! hope i helped!

try to see only your benefits and just be yourself , what you feel reflects to the ppl around you most of the time , so if u feel pretty u will look 10 times prettier ,and whoever likes u likes u