My sister is 14 and she is a tramp (i used google translator for this word).
She is doing stuff that embarass everyone in the family. I'll list them to u.
- She is smoking since the age of 12. My mother has tried to cut her out of this habit but she failed.
-She doesn't eat. She has lost 40 lbs since June and she just won't eat anything. Only when she's really hungry. Me and my mother have realized that she copies one of her friends. He doesn't eat because he's sad.
-She had sex with a 17yr old guy who she dated for a week. I saw her text messages (she doesnt know anything of course) and she asked him when he will come over to go for a walk and he said that he can't come because he wants to **** desperately. And of course my sister acted dumb like most of the girls her age and slept with him. They had a 7 day relationship when he had sex with her. Now they've been together for 2 weeks.
-She's rude to our mom. Like really really rude. She does whatever she wants no matter what she says.
-She is rude to me. I try to talk to her but I fail. She always says "it's not ur problem"
-Her friends have a big bad influence on her. Eventhough,they have a bad influence on her sometimes she beats them (they're all guys by the way). They dont beat her back but they're always out.
There are more that i want to add but i think u got a taste. I'm 15 but im the exact opossite. Her behaviour makes our mother sad and me of course. She's not the person I used to know.
Me and my mother decided to take her to a psychologist. But I think (i havent told my mum) that she needs a psychiatrist because she;s wasting her time/years and she is destroying herself.
What do u think we should do?
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Send her away to live with someone else
Hon your 14, you can't even legally get a job so how would you even aid a youngster? Sure that's best you love children however the truth is you might be still one your self and yes you may also babysit however do you see the rate of how so much it's to aid a child a week? Formula on my own is wherever from $20-30 a can and that does not last long, most toddlers go threw a can every two days so that's about 4 cans per week you then need to purchase diapers which are by and large $10-20 relying on how huge a % you buy and then consider of the stuff you'll must purchase just to get capable a decent crib is anywhere from $200 and up, where are you getting the money for that> where would you set the child? Is your room massive enough to fit a crib, another dresser and a altering table? Have you even inspiration about how being pregnant is and the matters that may go incorrect and the way painful labor is? You think institution is hard proper now simply assume being woke up each night then having to move to college the following morning and along with your sibs you will have a alternative to get up with them because in fact your the sister not the dad or mum but with a youngster of your own there is no "mother, dad would you get the baby i have institution the next day" , it's your little one and you need to stand up with it
Obviously your sister is acting out for some underlying reason. Try and find the underlying reason and maybe her behavior will turn around. If not then you honestly need to let her hit her own rock bottom and she won't change until SHE wants to. Also, make sure you and your mom are not too overbearing even if it's coming from a nice place because this may have the opposite effect you want it to have on your sister.
She is not a tramp, she needs change and you can only get it by giving her inspiration...
Beat the living **** out of her when she acts up. she'll never do it again.