Ok so theres this guy that likes me; I don't like him back and I'm not sure what to do. I know this sounds really stupid to be asking but this doesn't really happen to me and I'm not sure what to say. He's really nice and funny but I just want to be friends with him without pulling that cliche "can we just be friends". I also feel bad because I feel like I've been leading him on unintentionally :(. I don't want to look like this bitchy tease but he's been asking for hugs and its not like I'm gonna tell him no. Today he gave me a homemade valentine with a picture he drew of two silhouettes kissing in the rain and on the back it said "Happy valentines day, I would ask you on a date but I already did that. See you saturday." (this is referring to when he asked me to the movies, I didn't interpret is as a date it just sounded like he wanted to hang out even sounded like other people would be there). He's really nice and funny but I don't like him that way and I feel awful about it. Have I been a *****? How do I tell him I just want to be friends without sounding like a jerk.
Ps. I feel bad about complaining about this situation. I'm not that typical teenage girl who complains about guys liking them but I usually don't run into problems like this and I just want to make sure I don't hurt anyone :/
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I understand how u feel. Still go to the movies with him but ask of you can bring a friend. Be blunt but nice about things. When u hug, don't drag it out be quick about it. Also, be very careful what u say,do,and act around him. Keep throwing the word friend in here and there. If he doesn't get it, say I'm glad we're just friends or you'll have to just tell him. Som hearts are ment to be broken, so someone new can come in.
Help me? Does Jon like me? What about Luke? What To do. Please help. I'm one of those "never dated 17 year olds." help?
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EDIT: About the "cry like a girl" part near the bottom, nothing malicious meant by this towards girls, just an expression...
Oh Dear, Rachel, by being nice to him you've given the wrong impression... it's so easy for girls to do this and I'm not going to place the blame on anybody...
He is now in the mindset where he thinks there may be a chance. He's probably getting butterflies and telling his friends and possibly parents about going out with a new girl. He has spent time making this Valentine's Card and it sounds like he has put quite a bit of effort into it!
You don't want to drag this on. You need to tell him right away. TRY not to make him feel less of a man and make up random excuses or say "um, I like you, but..." - just make it clear to him the next time you see him that you aren't looking for anything like "that" right now and you're not interested in being anything more than friends. (Don't give the impression it's a temporary thing, he sounds like he's set on this now).
From the sounds of things he's probably going to take it quite badly. You will have to accept this. He might ignore you, call you a ***** or even CRY like a girl (guys do this). Give him time and he'll come out of it eventually. I just hope he has friends of his own to help him through it.
End it now, Rach!
Good luck
Joe