I'm having so much trouble lately, it seems I keep attracting weirdos and people who creep me out and just stress me out to no end. Before I could handle it, because it was just people who'd somehow manage to get my facebook/msn and they lived 8+ hours away. But lately, I had one really creepy guy, who actually lives in my town, and has means and acess to my address and phone number. I've since managed to cut ties with him, hoping he gets the message. Thought I was finally over all of this, and this guy from my school (I'm distance educated, so I've never talked or met him) finds me on facebook, and, now he's just really creepy. I'm just really over attracting these guys who creep me out and annoy me to no end, and end up "falling" for me in a small amount of time. I'm not a slut, I'm a nice, outgoing girl...People tell me I'm too nice...is this my problem? I just want to find someone normal who likes me, not someone who makes me want to go into witness protection! It's all starting to stress me out.
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oh god. So do i.
Or at least i thought that was all that I attracted until I met my current boyfriend.
The truth is, every woman has to deal with weirdos. It's not just you. Honestly. There are PLENTY of weirdos out there that prey on women, clueless to our disinterest. They sometimes can't even understand that you would rather shoot yourself in the face than talk to them, even if you say those exact words to them. They will follow you, call you, compliment you, and engage you in all manner of less than intelligent conversation despite your obvious signs of hatred. They are desperate and oblivious.
You can rid yourself of them. Just ignore them. That's the only way to really deal with them. It takes FOREVER for them to go away, but if you ignore them for years on end, eventually the frequent 'hey, haven't talked to you in a while' will turn into 'are you still alive?' and then, eventually 'well i guess you don't want to talk to me anymore' followed by yet a few more feeble attempts to get in contact with you will fade into silence. Trust me, it takes time though. Just next time when you sense the guy is a weirdo, don't even hint that you might be willing to even be his acquaintance. Be a b*tch if you have to, trust me, it's worth it to save you months or years of discomfort.
But you will meet a normal guy, trust me. I know the weirdos like the back of my hand, and I thought that was all that was in my dating future, but eventually I met a wonderful guy who I have been seeing for two years and some months and we are very happy together and very much in love:) You just have to sift through all the weirdos and jerks, but somewhere in there is a good one, I promise. It just takes time for him to find you.
Talk to your parents about this, they will be able to help you figure something out.
It may be that you just need to confront the guy in question and tell him clearly and in front of witnesses that you are not interested, you have never been interested, and if he doesn't leave you alone you will call the police and report him as a stalker.
Sometimes you can be too nice, yes. There are times when it is necessary to get a bit nasty, to get a point across.
Weirdos are attracted to weirdos & by weirdos
Hey babe, let's go on a date.
I work at Weirdo's R US.
I know the best table at McDonalds.
:)