self esteem issues?
I have had very low self esteem ever since I started college. I am about to finish my sophomore year and nothing has gotten better. I know that my current mental state has been the major problem with getting good grades. I lack the confidence and always feel as if people are judging me and that I am not good enough. I dont want to be like this anymore. I want to accept who I am and be happy with my life. But right now, I'm just miserable and feel like I cant turn to anyone for help. Any suggestions on what I can do to get my confidence level up??
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i struggled with the exact same thing for years, it hasnt been until the last few months, that ive been able to kick myself out of it.
What i do, is imagine the type of person i want to be ( ie. a nice, non judgemental, person, a good wife and mother) i think of all the good qualities i admire in others. Then, every day, i tell myself i am all those things(whether i believed it or not) because eventually i started to believe i was a good person, worth being respected and loved.
Now i can honestly say for the first time in my life, that i love who i am, i have my faults, as everyone does, and thats ok, because i focus only on the positive things in myself and in everyone and everything around me. I promise u positivity will change your attitude and the attitudes of everyone around u.
When u have negative feelings or instincts to something or sumone, catch yourself, and force yourself to point out one positive thing. Good luck, and trust me, u can do it, and your worth it, u deserve to be happy too!
there must be someone u can talk to . a family member, a teacher, a friend, a doctor.
there must be a reason(s)that started getting u down. sometimes writing them down helps u to see the problem and help yourself solve it.
everyone gets down, congratulate yourself that u don't want to feel like this anymore. thats a step in the right direction.
believe in yourself ! u did not get this far for nothing.
is school work too much pressure;maybe a teacher,counsellor can guide u.
together u can find the answers.
good luck
do the things that you like...and do not think much about anything cause i just came though a valuble teaching that is "do not think but contemplate" this was told by a buddhist monk.
wish happiness for all biengs and do not judge anyone cause everyone is so unique..thats what makes the world so beautiful and fascinating.
do not think bout the grades too cause getting the good grades is not the thing..or not intelligence
intelligent one is one who is peaceful, friendly and fearless
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Do something you believe you really can't do. That's why people run marathons.
You should be able to talk to someone through your school about this, too. Ask around.